Oh, honey, I am soooo sorry. In my opinion, if you need dh to deal with the kids right now, he's their dad, too, with responsibilities of being their dad. Even, if you can handle it, if he has to be there and sleep on the couch. I know there are no comforting words, except that you are being so smart, and I sooo hope the tide turns on you soon. You do deserve a better life. We're all sending support and hugs your way. You are strong. Do you have anyone around to help at all? Ooh, your dh's timing is so bad! Cyber frying pans to him!!

I'm also here, if you ever care to PM. I'm so sorry, and wish we could help in some way.

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Make someone's heart smile today.

I truly hate that you are dealing with all of this. Your post broke my heart. I will keep you, your dad, and even your dh in my prayers. I know all of this is overwhelming, but know we are here for you. ((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. Im so sorry I lost in my last post. Life is coming at me fast right now. I fell like im on the outside looking in at my world crumble. If i could scream , cry and kick i may feel better. I put on this big fake smile in front of the kids but i really just want to fall apart. I Know i will never be ready for this with dad , I need to just prepair myself . As for tony I may never know why he did this. I gave him my all. I never even as much look at another man cause he is all I ever wanted. 18 Months while he was in iraq and the guys around him wives was leaving them for another man , I was here waiting on him. Through all the hardships of our marriage I never gave up. This is my thanks from him.

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I know it is hard to be strong around your children, but it is OK to let them see you cry. I tried my hardest to not cry around my children either, but when I finally let myself it was so much easier for all of us. It is OK for them to know that they can feel sad too. I hope this came out ok, I'm not trying to upset you anymore. I also agree with what desertmom said about your dh, let him sleep on the couch and help you care for your children. You need the extra support. Please pm me if you need to talk.

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Hey Babe,
If you need me I'm just a call away, you have the number. It's the one on your caller ID 2,345,824 times :D ((((((((hugs)))))) I was in your shoes 2 years ago. I left my first husband due to adultry and my daddy passed away unsuspectedly 2 months later. CALL ME if you need me. You can call me, cuss me, I will cry with you and you can imagine kicking me if you want to! We love you!

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I just wanted to let you know that i am praying for you and your family- I know how devasting it is to loose a parent . ( my mom passed away from copd) I hope your husband will step up to the plate and help you with your children. I know you are hurting right now but you are strong and you can get through this!- just take things one minute, one hour, one day at a time. Please know that we are ALL here for you!

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You must do the thing you think you cannot do~
-Eleanor Roosevelt

Wow, I'm so sorry all this is happening at once. I have no words of wisdom but I will pray for you

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