Well we didnt have school Monday so i emailed the teacher yesterday. She responded quickly , she said she found my email quite interesting and was totally unaware of what's been going on and that yes she had received a written note from Suzy's mom about riding home with me and she said she assumed it was all okay with me and then said she felt it was pretty bold of Suzy's mother to pull that without calling before hand to see if it was okay with me. Anyhow she also said alot of things about Suzy are making more sense now because she's constantly having to "ride" Suzy about getting her books and misc.stuff together and off to the bus in time after school. She said, Suzy,is obviously taking her time because she knows she has an "out" (me giving her a ride home) if she misses the bus,so she's been having an *oh ,well* attitude lately. She said she is happy for the email and glad i let her know whats going on and agrees that i should not have to give Suzy a ride anywhere. She will email or call me if Suzy's mom sends anymore notes about riding home with me.
For now i have not called Suzy's mom, hopefully i won't need too.

IMO you still really need to talk to Suzy's Mom. I know you don't want to, and I understand why, but I know if it were me...I would worry that the child. It's not her fault her Mom is behaving this way, sending notes into school without talking to you first and it's hard to know what is really going on when the information you do have is from a young child. I would hate for the child to be left without a ride or whatever. I think it's easy to say "not my problem" but I just know for me, I would feel bad. Just sayin!