My friend who has a son my son's age, finally got through the last step for speech therapy (like we just did). Well, she told them that she was in our school zone, which she is not, and hoped they would not find out. Then, she was hoping that they would just have him in the computer for next year (kindergarten) as well.

Our school is one of those sought after schools that everybody tries to get a waiver for, is overcrowded as it is, but is an awesome school so I understand why everybody tries to get a waiver, but they give VERY few of them out. When we moved here in 2001, we only had one child who was 18 months old at the time, but figured there was a strong possibility we would be here for his elementary school as well as any future children so we did our homework and chose this school. We looked at houses in other school zones that were nicer, but chose our house (which we love, too, thankfully ) because it is within walking distance of the school and will never be out of this school zone.

My friend just chose her house because of the house, which is not a bad thing to do, but if you have children, even if they are babies as hers was in 2002, you have to look into the schools. The school she is zoned for is the worst around. Yes, she is only a mile from our school, but her school zone has ALWAYS been the other school. If they had rezoned after she moved here, I would have sympathy, but that is not the case.

Well, of course, the school found out the lie and now are telling her she needs to go to the school she is zoned for and she is livid. They are telling her too bad. And she is expecting me to be sympathetic, but I am NOT. I understand the school having to be firm. They get waiver requests all the time according to the principal.

I think part of it is when I worked, we did a school rezoning project and it was frustrating dealing with federal regulations, growth patterns, but especially with parents. I know you want the best for your children and sometimes things are beyond our control (that I have sympathy for), but when you buy a house you need to research schools! It is so important and I don't understand why she thinks her son should be exempt from going to his school when there are hundreds of other kids who want the same exemption. (Well, I do understand that as she thinks - as we all do - that her son is the most important child on earth.)

I love her, but I am frustrated with her right now. I am trying to be nice, but it is getting harder and harder when she is calling me complaining every half hour or so.

Sorry this got long, but I feel better getting it off my chest here instead of to her!

OH, that would be hard to deal with. Maybe suggest a realetor to help her find a house in your district!!! Would that shut her up?

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when we bought our house out in the country it was with the knowledge that our dd would be attending one of the better public shcools in our city. i wouldn't want her to go to any other school. the fact that her bus ride is an hour and a half is just a price we have to pay to have her be in that school. she should have done her research. now she needs to suck it up.

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that kind of stuff drives me nuts to...i would just not say to much or try to change the subject or you may even have to take her calls selectively if you have caller id... i have a friend who pays ungodly amounts for her kids to go to catholic school (she has to drive them 20 min one way) and we were discussing what our kids are doing in kindergarten and my son is about a half a year ahead in school work and she is just livid she is paying her kids should be not mine but we live in a wonderful district just like you so i just try to avoid the subject all together...vent away here....

When looking for homes we ALWAYS have checked out the schools nearby. She should have
done her homework and found a district she would have wanted. I like the suggestion of giving her the name of a realetor.

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Jodie....Wife to Andrew (1995)
Mommy to Riley (2000) and Wyatt (2003)

Hmmm...We moved into our house at the very beginning of the housing boom in Maryland. We weren't particularly worried about the schools at the time. We had only been married a year, had no children yet, and knew the county we were moving into had (I think) the second best school system in the state. Several years after we moved in we found out from our neighbors that were districted into one of the worst school zones in the county. Our mistake was not checking out particular schools. I naively thought that if our county had one of the best school districts in the state, that meant that ALL of the schools in the county were top notch (apparently the really good schools are in the vicinity of the million dollar homes). Now we're outgrowing our house and we have children who will be entering the school system in a few years, but we're finding that the only larger houses we can afford in the area we want to stay in are in horrible school districts. We're staying put for the time being, but at some point something will have to give (but moving into a lousy school district will NOT be one of them). So...while I would never lie to try and get my child into a school he didn't belong in, I can sympathize with not having the foresight to figure all of that out ahead of time.

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Mom to: Caleb (8/03), Ian (9/05), & Baby Boy #3 (EDD 11-9-2008)

If she had done it out of ignorance, I might be able to have sympathy for her. But since she LIED, she KNEW she might get found out and she'll just have to pay the consequences.

We live EXACTLY on the county line, so my kids could attend school in either county...and while I like our schools for the most part, they definitely have their flaws. However, there are just no outstanding public schools around here so to get the best of the best, you have to plan for private schools...which we simply cannot do.

Sorry...got off the subject.....

I would be frustrated too. She doesn't have any right to be angry. She knew how the schools were zoned - so the only one at fault is herself. It is frustrating when others expect to get what they want without having the foresight to actually plan ahead for it. UGH!!!

We picked our school BEFORE we decided on a house! At the time we purchased our home, our older dd was a year away from kindergarten...we found a top notch school and then found a home in that school zone.

I know people who lie about their address to get into a better school and then have the nerve to complain when the school actually does an address verification check!!!

Our home was chosen based on the schools. We could have a nicer home, but the schools are bad in that area. There is always private school. Has she checked into private?

I don't understand how she has a right to complain?