If you read my post yesterday I stated everything went ok.

However today was different. Thank God the ride was short. This girl is evil! Not really, I'm just frustrated. First she was singing at the top of her lungs, and of course ds joined in. I'm not against having a good time, but it got so grating. I finally told them to cool it, that I needed to concentrate to drive. The girl backtalked me. I told her I meant it, and she backtalked me again. Then she quieted down, but was whispering stuff to my ds like, "If She tells us again to be quiet let's tell her NO!" Ds didn't say anything, he looked kind of dumbfounded.

When I dropped her off I called the mom to tell her that she was in, and when she asked how it went I told her the story. Not in great detail, but I did tell her that she back-talked to me, and didn't really appreciate it. I told her "we'll see how next week goes". The mom said, "I'll talk to her, maybe she's still getting used to the arrangements". No how about your daughter is a B*tch?

I told her I'd see how next week went, because I totally do not need this. Not only has nothing been said about $ today, and I didn't bring it up because I feel if I don't continue why even bring it up. I wanted the mom to know that I'll see how it goes so maybe she's going to have to come up with another plan.

Am I being unreasonable? I've driven my friends kids and they were all courteous, even though they were having fun. I'm also thinking,i n my mind I 'have it in' for this girl, because (horrible as this is to say) I didn't like her the first time I met her. Maybe now I'm taking every little thing and over-analyzing it? The thing that bothered me most today was the whispering to ds about me. That Really made me pissed.

I don't think I've read the other posts but how did this all come about? Did you get roped into it somehow because you sound really bitter about the whole thing...maybe just let them know that it's not going to work out after all and stop doing it? It doesn't sound like it's worth it to you.

For what it is worth I recently ended a volunteer duty because it was just too taxing on me. I was not enjoying it, it was affecting my mood and I found myself dreading when I had to go. Without going into too much detail I decided that the best thing for me at this time was to stop doing it and not the feel guilty about it because life is too short not to enjoy.

I agree about the backtalk and the "secret whisper" I would be bugged too. Don't let a favor paid or unpaid compromise your sanity and family.

You're not happy. Just opt out.JMO

Well, I would opt out, too. However, I would have handled today a bit different. (I missed the post yesterday and was wondering how it went!)

I would have pulled the car over and stopped. I would have gotten out, got as close to her as possible (depending on where she was sitting) and told her that is unacceptable. If she backtalked again, you would be talking to her mother. I would have told the mother and asked her for future reference how she wanted me to discpline her child while she was in your car and that if it continued, you were done. By stopping the car, she would have known you meant business.

I vote if she does it tomorrow, too, just do that. Stop the car and give her a good scare. If she isn't scared or the mom thinks it is no big deal, I would opt out. But, I might opt out anyways. . . JMO

I agree. Sounds like the kid would benefit from being around you. If you and your child don't end up being a good influence on her, I'd quit the carpool, too.

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Oh Yeah, I like this idea, scare the crap out of her, put her in her place!!! I hope tomorrow is better!!

I hope i don't sound too mean, sorry!!

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You need to be getting paid!!! I take a sweet girl to her after school program four days a week and i get $45/month to do it. I know it's not alot but the family is already paying a large amount for childcare. However alteast it's something so i feel it's worth going out of my way for.

Personally i wouldn't deal with this girl. Life is too short to be miserable even for a short time each day.

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You are not getting paid????? I thought you were. You need to get out NOW!