When you are both tired and really just want to go to sleep, who is the responsible one and stays awake?

It is the end of the week. I know he is tired. I tell him at dinner I am tired. After dinner, I come and lay down on the couch and start relaxing. He comes and sits in his recliner and starts looking at a book. I asked if he was going to do his homework (he is going to school full time and work full time.) He said yes. The next thing I know, he is sleeping. We have four children under the age of 9. I know that he does alot outside the home and has a lot of responsibilites, but I feel I have a lot of responsibilities with the kids too. So, I got up and started moving, vacuuming, starting the laundry and such because now, I need to stay awake. He ends up waking up at 7:30ish and going to bed. I am trying not to act like a martyr. I am just so frustrated at his behavior. I feel that we as a couple should work together to get the kids to bed as quickly as possible so that we can both go to bed.

Ok, I have ranted enough. Sorry. Just frustrated....

I know how you feel...DH comes home from work everyday and "disappears" while I try and make dinner, get the kids settled down and cleaned up, go over their homework and straighten up. Then he'll come down (or in from the garage) and eat, then go relax on the couch or go back upstairs to relax. I just feel overwelmed...and exhausted!! If I even suggest that I'm tired I get the look as if "how can I be?" I work full time (from home), take care of the house, 4 kids, going to school for my masters, and take care of HIS mother...and he wants to know why I"M tired?? I realize he works too...and I respect that...but I warrant a little help every once in a while...

Okay...now that I invaded your vent with mine...the moral of my vent is that I can completely relate to how you feel!!!

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Thank you!!! As I sit here not going to bed.... LOL After I once got up and got moving, I worked out my tiredness, besides the fact that I got so annoyed with him. That got me over my tiredness too! Now, I am staying up so that I can hope to sleep in. :D LOL

My dad was like that and I swore I wouldn't put up w/it. Dh does try sometimes, but I feel exactly as you do. They're his kids, too, and we don't even get breaks, nor do we get to punch out at five or even at midnight!

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You may get to sleep in??!! I wish...that's another thing...DH knows that I'm a very light sleeper in the AM...so if he annoys me enough, I'll get up before him so I can make a pot of coffee and take the dog out...if he gets up first, then he has to do it. I'll usually get up and he'll fall back to sleep for another hour or so...it so aggrevates me because he goes to bed 2-3 hours before me and then sleeps in an hour or 2 later...I'd love to just sleep in once!!!

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My husband does that too. I am just thinking that since he did go to sleep early tonight and has not done ANY homework this week for his classes, he is going to have to find time to do it. Sometimes, he will get up early to work on his homework. SO, I am hoping. The likelihood is that I will be up at 7 at the latest with the four kids making coffee and dealing with all the arguments and such.

Normally, husband goes to bed earlier then me and then gets up later then me. He LOVES his SLEEP...

Well I have to admit that tonight - I was up doing homework that is due on Monday and I will probably be doing the same thing tomorrow and Sunday, as well as getting up early...just for the quiet...why you ask? because I too didn't work on ANY assignments this past week either...or the week before because I was away on a business trip!! I will have to catch some sleep next week, hopefully!!

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"Inside some of us is a thin person struggling to get out, but they can usually be sedated with a few pieces of chocolate cake!" - ANONYMOUS

I'm glad I'm not alone - it seems like my DH never has to do without sleep. I'm not sure I've slept through the night for 6 years....

He's even said that he doesn't get any sleep when I am not here, because he feels safer when I am home - he knows that I will wake up if I hear any noise. I am the one that will push the alarm clock button. I am the one that will fetch water/blankets/whatever for the kids all night. I swear sometimes he is awake - he just plays dead so I will get up and do it.

I asked for a hotel room (by myself) and sleeping pills for my last birthday - I think it might change my life if I had some solid sleep......

My dh is currently asleep on the coach and has been for a long time. We have a nice thing except when I'm exhausted. I'm a late nighter, he's an early riser. But he gets up with the kids b/c I can't go back to sleep onc e I wake up. then about 6am I literally pass out. If I need to go to bed early he acts like he's doing everything by himself which is so not true. If I go to bed b4 11pm I am going to be very ill the next day.

allgirls

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That's a man for ya. Women are definately the stronger ones we really can suck it up and push ourselves

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