Im just like your neighbors when it comes to sticking to myself. I dont want to be friends with anyone THats mean isnt it ?? Anyways I would want them to come talk to me if I was doing something that was bothering their children , I would rather them come talk to me when its something health wise . I wqould just catch them pulling up and walk over and tell them what their smoke is doing to your kids. Unless they are heartless they will move their smoking to the other side rather cause your kids harm. Just say " My daughter has allergies and the smoke is bothering her ALOT , I was wondering if you could smoke on the other side so that the kids can play without getting sick" Im willing to bet they will move for the sake of your kids. Just be nice , Kill them with kindness. I hope this works out for you just remeber they dont know its bothering you unless you tell them. :love:

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Boy are you in a bind...your in a sticky situation here...you need to look out for your children but your faced with having to tell your neighbors what to do on their own property...not to mention, they are outside...

Well maybe to help...I'm a smoker too, and I only smoke outside...however, our yards are big enough not to bother anyone and I usually only smoke on the back deck unless its raining then I'm out on the front porch (my deck is also 7 ft off the ground from where the kids play)...however, if a neighbor came to me and explained what your saying, I would find another place to smoke...they last thing I want to do is harm another person with my bad habit...it's bad enough that I smoke - I don't need others to suffer.

I used to be one of those people that didn't care what others thought...it was my life, not theirs...I used to smoke in the house (only in the kitchen) until we were getting ready to put the house up for sale and I realized that even though I smoked only in the kitchen, it caused ALOT of damage throughout the house...not to mention, what it was doing to my kids and family!!! Now I only smoke outside...I tend to yell at my kids if they decide they want to come and chat with me when I'm out there. I also smoke in the car, with the window down...but not with others in the car with me anymore...I try and respect others feelings as best as I can!! Like I said - this is my habit - not theirs and they shouldn't have to live with it.

Try and talk to your neighbors about it...the worst that can happen is that they don't talk to you and they are not doing that anyway...so it wouldn't be a total loss. I pray that they respect your feelings and at least move to the other side of the house.

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Our neighbor is a HEAVY smoker---even when the windows are closed....his smoke drifts over.... It's very irritating but we haven't found a solution either.

We have to smell it when we are sleeping, it's really gross!

I hope you are able to find a good solution!

I've been thinking about your situation some more, and if you do decide to talk to your neighbors, it's probably a good idea to figure out who is the head of the household, and talk to him/her.

If you don't talk to the patriarch or matriarch, your words could get twisted around to something like, "Our neighbor expects us to quit smoking, ha ha like that's gonna happen."

Maybe as the weather warms up you will get more incentive to talk to them. I think installling a fan would be slightly insulting if you haven't even asked for their cooperation first.

I agree!

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Kill them with kindness made me think "bring over a plate of cookies"

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"Cholesterol won't stick if you have the right attitude"

Your post made me giggle at 2:30 in the morning. "Here's some cookies...stop smoking and get fat!!" I think I need to go to bed.

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I just gotta say that assuming anything about your neighbors isnt really very neighborly. I think that you should give them the benefit of the doubt, you say that sometimes they wave and sometimes they dont, well how many times have you been in a hurry or lost in thought and missed waving at a passing neighbor or remebering to say good bye to someone? We all do that, its natural. Also just think of this, you nieghbors may be assuming things about you, they may assume that you hate them because they had workers at their house so early and you had to complain, I am just saying this because assuming anything about anyone can lead to a lot of confusion. I think as adults we have to learn to talk and not just assume that people are going to be negative. The worse thing that can happen is that you will go over there and ask can you please help me out and they will say no or they will ignore your request or you can go over there and they will say sure anything we can do to help your little one. But if you never ask then you will never know. I hope you get some relief and that maybe just maybe you will make some new friendly neighbors.