I don't think anyone is saying that only popular kids are 'mean'...as I said in my post, I said some of the popular kids are mean. The thread was about 'popular' kids and I gave my take on it and how my kids have experienced the school peking order. Sure, there are plenty of nice kids that might be considered 'popular' and plenty of mean kids that might be considered 'unpopular'. I imagine most schools have quite a mix.

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my dd is only 6 so she s still quite young. she is well liked by her classmates and all the kids on the bus there are one or 2 girls that are not all that nice some of the time, otherwise she gets along with everyone. she is just a friendly kid,. i don't think there are specific things about her that make her well liked by so many just that she is very friendly without being clingy.

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Is your son also an only child? I have noticed this same behavior in a friend of ours. she is an only child and her mom and myself have often talked about this.
There is a girl in their classroom who is a snot. If she is playing with someone she will not let u play with them. My dd said fine gave her a face and moved on. Mine friends dd went to a bench sat down and as soon as she got home told her mom she has no friends and nobody likes her. My dd gets told all the time I don't want to play now or with you by her sisters. The kids are 1st grade also. SO far my friends dd still does not get it even though we have both talked to her and my dd also tried talking to her. HTH, I think part of it is a "normal" social development thing.

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DS1 is 4 1/2, but goes to the public school for pre-K. So far, his teachers say that he is well liked by all the students. His "best buddy" is a little boy with autism and he has a "best friend" that is a little girl, who is very sweet. There is one boy in the class that came into the class a couple of months into the school year. He never talks, but DS always goes up to him and invites him to do things. The class is very integrated with all levels. One boy can't talk, walk or feed himself and DS says, "He cries a lot, but he's still a big boy". His teacher must say that to the class, but the kids really take it to heart. DS is very kind and sensitive and loves to help out. His teacher said that he goes from small group to small group asking how he can help. It's funny, but even at this age, there is one girl that you can tell is going to be somewhat of a bully. And she is popular. She is pretty nice, but already has an attitude towards different people. I've helped out a little in his class, so I've been able to observe some.

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My older kids have a large circle of friends but I wouldn't say they are popular. My oldest is the kind of person who keeps everyone at arms length, he only lets a few know the real him, he is friendly with everyone but only considers 3 or 4 boys his close friends. DD has a bubbly personality, she is always laughing, she always has a smile and considers everyone her best friend.

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My kids are well liked. My dd is 13 and new in school, but she has a small group of good friends already. She also plays volleyball and seems to get along well with everyone, no one resents her joining their travelling team late like I was afraid they might. My 3rd grade son is friends with every one!!! So is my 1st grade son. My 2nd grader is much slower to warm up and adapt, but he also has made some good friends in the short time we have been here. My little one is in preschool and everyone loves everyone there!

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My dd 10 is popular.[ not the bullie type].She is very involed in school activities.I always had her invite her whole class to her b-day parties. Or no party at all! Unless it was girls only!

But I think alot of it was do to the school. When she was in pre school she was in a group/ class 1/2 were special needs and 1/2 reg. when she first started to go she was very nervous, some of the kids had sever autism and 1 boy in a wheelchair. I just had to remind her every day that everyone was a gift from god. To learn from them. As time has gone on some of these kids have taught her more than I could ever teach. The school system has tried to keep these kids together through out the years. One of my memories was when they had the special oylipics[sp?] in our town, We went over to cheer on some of her class mates..The parents couldn't beleive we made it a part of our day.And her class mates where so excited to see her cheering for them. I think if some parents would take a little time to do things like this kids wouldn't grow up bratty!

When I grow up I didn't have many friends. My parents got us involed in an out of school activity.I use to Roller Skate. I meet a whole new group of freind this way, while having fun.We got to do some traveling and a bunch of compititons..I di have 2 close friend in school. I still talk to them every day over 15 years later.

I don't know what you could do or say to your son he's so young and it is very hard to understand why people act as they do, ever as an adult it's had to understand!

Kids can be pretty mean, all of them, at some time or another. We've told our daughter to say "whatever" and turn away when something mean is said to her. We've also taught her to stick up for her friends if they are being bullied, which she does.

I think the best thing is to help your son cultivate a close friendship or two. If he's wrapped up with his friend, he's less likely to worry about all the other kids. Good luck.

I don't know what to tell you about your son....but if he has a few friends I think that is a very good thing.

My dd is well liked, but not sure if she is "popular", she is very involved with school activities and plays on the soccer team. When she was younger, there was a boy in her class with down syndrome and the teacher told me that she was his "little mother". She protected him and didn't let any of the other kids pick on him. She was very sweet.

My ds I think is well liked, he has taken this last move a little harder than I would have expected. He was on the football, team, and wrestling team, so I am guessing that he has lots of friends, but never talks about them. And no one ever knocks on the door to "play" nor does he go to anyones house....he does go up to the basketball courts (our community center) and he finds kids to "play" with, but again, he never talks about any of them. And if I asks he tells me they are aquaintances. He is coming around, and about a week ago, someone in the neighborhood actually knocked on our door and they went up to the courts, so things are looking up.

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