The Let's Rant! Thread - Page 3

abbysmommy · 03-19-2007, 08:22 PM

My rant for the day is that I'm tired of having to act like a stiff-necked grown up when I'm out with my husband. We had the rare event where we got to go out alone and eat over the weekend (a surprise blessing!) and then we had to go to Wal-Mart to pick up a few things before coming home. In the Easter aisle, they had this huge stuffed duck that was soooo cute and cuddly that I just had to pick it up and feel of it, so I hugged it. He got so irritated at me and ordered me right away to "PUT IT DOWN!"....he was embarrassed by me.

Just because I'm getting ready to turn 32 does NOT mean I have to act like it!!

desertmom · 03-19-2007, 11:55 PM

Oh, abbysmommy - we need an icon that does raspberries! He's no fun!

MontseinIL · 03-20-2007, 12:17 AM

I have a few rants but I think since I'm going to go on vacation in 2 weeks I'm gonna try to think positive all the time. I'm hoping I get good Karma and I will have a happy vacation for once. If not what's the point of going on one???

As for Swampwitch I can sympathize as my father is a narcissist. Not as bad as your parents sound but He "is always right" and "has never done anything wrong" That's why he is no longer in my life. I have come to the conclusion that except for your children you don't need to put up with anyone in your life that is constantly bringing you down. You will feel guilty and uncertain at first but God will forgive you and you will forgive yourself for trying to live a happier better life.

I think the peanut thing needs to be addressed also. My stepdad and mom are the only ones who watch my kids, but my stepdad doesn't "believe" in allergies. He says it's just a way of making people pay doctors more. Even though we all have severe allergies. My niece is really allergic to dogs and he let her pet their neighbors dog then her skin was all red and she was coughing and snezzing. He said it was something else. People need to be more sensitive to others needs.

mommysparkles · 03-20-2007, 02:02 AM

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I have come to the conclusion that except for your children you don't need to put up with anyone in your life that is constantly bringing you down.

Let me make an exception to your exception MontseinIL, you don't need to put up with it from your children either.

I have a 17 yo ds (d is for demon in this case) who was privately diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, court diagnosed with conduct disorder, and who I swear is bi-polar that is the most disrepectful little sob I ever met. Don't get me wrong, I love this kid dearly and always will, but when you have to put up daily with being told the best thing that could happen to your family would be for you to move out or even die, that is crossing the line of anything a parent should have to tolerate. Especially when you have not done anything to harm the child except breathe his air. Has our relationship always been this way? Nope. We were always very close, even in the 18 months in which he resided in a group home. The problems didn't start til he came home 7 months ago. (The little turd got himself in trouble with the law) DH thinks I take things too personally and that I should just let this roll off, but then dh doesn't have to hear this daily either. Of course dh's handling of this child is a whole nother rant.

Who ever said "family, (or even kids) you gotta love them", obviously didn't have any!!!!

Mommy2KGA · 03-20-2007, 10:36 AM

Thank you SwampWitch for the info. For years I have not been able to wrap my head around my mother's behaviors, etc. I don't get her and now, even though she is not diagnosed, I at least am a little enlightened.

MontseinIL · 03-20-2007, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by mommysparkles

Let me make an exception to your exception MontseinIL, you don't need to put up with it from your children either.

I have a 17 yo ds (d is for demon in this case) who was privately diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, court diagnosed with conduct disorder, and who I swear is bi-polar that is the most disrepectful little sob I ever met. Don't get me wrong, I love this kid dearly and always will, but when you have to put up daily with being told the best thing that could happen to your family would be for you to move out or even die, that is crossing the line of anything a parent should have to tolerate. Especially when you have not done anything to harm the child except breathe his air. Has our relationship always been this way? Nope. We were always very close, even in the 18 months in which he resided in a group home. The problems didn't start til he came home 7 months ago. (The little turd got himself in trouble with the law) DH thinks I take things too personally and that I should just let this roll off, but then dh doesn't have to hear this daily either. Of course dh's handling of this child is a whole nother rant.

Who ever said "family, (or even kids) you gotta love them", obviously didn't have any!!!!

I'm sorry for your situation, but since my kids are still small I can't say what might happen in the future. But I hope I never have to deal with my kids feeling the way about me that I feel about my dad. I appreciate what he has done for us (money wise) when he has felt like it but he is just inherently damaged in some way. He doesn't live the reality that we all live in and thinks he is perfect and that all the horrible things he did to my mother (in turn affecting us and even my and my sister's children) didn't happen.

I hope that whatever problems are going one with your son are resolved either through therapy or prayer (whichever may be your personal belief).

SwampWitch · 03-20-2007, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Mommy2KGA

Thank you SwampWitch for the info. For years I have not been able to wrap my head around my mother's behaviors, etc. I don't get her and now, even though she is not diagnosed, I at least am a little enlightened.

It's liberating to find out that your mother has a problem, and it's not all your fault as you've been told all your life! I'm glad it helped!

MUCH THANKS to dillonsmama, for the second link in my original post. Sorry, I should have credited her sooner! I didn't realize the gift behavior (and some other things) until I read her link.

princessabby · 03-20-2007, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by happyme

That's my mom. Last thing we got from her, nothing fit it was old used clothes. Broken things, my kids just cried. I can't handle cigarette smoke and ask her all the time not to smoke around me and kids and she still does. She made oldest dd sick last time she was up. Let her drink as much pop and junk food she could stuff in and she was puking for hours. My mom thought it was funny.

This is why DH is not currently talking to his mother.

Just one situation...We had arranged for DD#1 to stay at my dads house the 2 nights I was in the hospital having DD#2. Well, my MIL decided that DD#1 needed to stay at her house so night #2 (actual delivery/induction day), she took her to her house. The next day she brings her up to the hospital in the same clothes she had on the day before and her hair clips were in the same spot just a couple inches lower just hanging in her hair. We found out from DD that she was allowed to stay up until midnight watching cartoons eating Oreos

SHE'S 5!!!!! I was not a happy camper.

princessabby · 03-20-2007, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by vioburn

mommy&wifeisme: I would definitely say something to him. He needs to know that peanut allergies can be fatal and to NEVER give her peanuts again! You need to get it through his head.

OMG!! I agree. You should say something. It's not like he's giving her a cookie and you said she couldn't have one. This is a serious health issue.

calimari · 03-20-2007, 02:47 PM

Swampwitch - my older sister heard about narcissistic personality disorder last summer, read up on it & realized it explained everything we've ever tried to figure out about our father. She sent to the materials to me & my eldest sister, and it has been a lifesaver, especially for my eldest sister. She now knows at age 54 that NOTHING she does will ever change him, gain his approval/respect/love simply because he is incapable of doing anything other than focusing on himself. She also has a bi-polar daughter, so she gets it from both ends. My advice if you have a narcissist in your life who you cannot cut out of your life for whatever reasons, just go with the flow and let them continue to be the center of the world. Don't diss them as they'll never forgive you. It's just easier that way.