ok, so i ahd to drive an hour and ahalf to go pick my dd up frm camping with my mom, they emt me half way, anyways i get there and realize that i need gas in my car, well my dad had given me 20 for the tank and thats where i put it, but its just not very much when gas is so high, well i called my sister on my cell and asked her if she could put 20 in my bank accoutn and i would pay her back on thursday, well she went off on me, saying how i should get a job, and that she can't belevie that i don't even have 20 dollars, that its pretty pathetic that i don't have that much, and how can i stand to live paycheck to paycheck, and all that crap, and made me feel like total crap, after trying to explain to her that it doesn't make sense for me to go to work since i would be paying to work, thats why i stay home with my babies, anyways, i said we do have some money in savings but dad has it in an account for me and its a huge pain in the a** for him to have to leave work and go to the bank to withdraw it from his account and deposit it into my account, so i asked her to borrow it to me until thursday. well my sister and her husband are not strapped for cash, it would not have hurt her at all to lend me the money, and i have never before asked to borrow money from her before. and it was going to be paid back quickly, but she said to me " you can't always depend on my for money you know," i told her to forget about lending me the 20 i will call and get dad to get it out of my account for me and i also said i have never asked you for money before so don't act like i am always harassing you for money. then she had to nerve to say can you even afford to buy your dd any school clothes? or her school supplies? i told her that its none of her business what i buy my kids, and how i buy it for them, and i also said since when have my kids ever needed for anything? they always have nice clean good fitting clothes and lots of food and toys. i can #### well afford to clothe my kids. then i said bye and i refuse to talk to her now. i don't need her for anything, and i never have. me and her have different priorities, she prefers to make lots of money over coming home regularly and spending time with her dh, and they have no kids to worry about, they prefer to travel all the time. me and my family are happy with our income, and the things we have and the time we spend together. i know when my kids are older they will be thankful that i was home with them when they were yound and that they got to know me. my sister made me feel worthless and useless just becuase i stay at home with my kids, and she made me feel like i was a terrible parent. why is it that a dollar sign is what makes us valuable?

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Kimberley

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I swear some people just do not get it. She had no right to lecture you like that and don't feel bad. You know you are doing what is necessary in your life and that is all that is important.

that is why we are here to support each other. Family who needs enemies.

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I agree. Some people just do not get it at all. You know that you are doing what is best for your children by staying home. When she is older she will find out that having money is nice but not the most important thing. I would rather be broke than to be without DH and the kids!

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I don't have any advice on how to deal with your sister, but I'm sorry she made you feel bad.

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Amanda
Mommy to Zack & Emily

Well, if I were you, I would NEVER ask her for anything again, especially money. Don't give her any details about your life, and if she asks why you haven't called, tell her you couldn't AFFORD it....lol....

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I've been boo'ed!!

You not a bad mom but its true some people only value our job by the amount of dollars or euros it brings home in a paycheck. Not realizing sometimes until its too late some things cant be valued in money.

She gave you such a rough time I wonder was she jeilous (sP0 I read where you said she has no children. Well at the end of the day maybe you have a lifestyle she would like but wont admit to.

Dont let her bother you rememebr you can choose your friends not your famly. Just dont give her much personal information then she wont have any ammuntion to throw at you

Sorry but your sis needs to mature a little bit

Anne

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"When we know better we do better" Maya Angelou

I feel the same way...that I'm only valued by the money I make (not to dh, but to my siblings). It's frustrating and very hurtful sometimes.

Hang in there...you don't have to explain ANYTHING to HER!

Gosh - I know how that feels - its a gut punch to the stomach. Just a "sure" is all you needed to hear - the rest was garbage. I'm sorry you are having to deal w/ this. I know from personal experience family can really hurt you when it comes to money.

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Me, Mom and Caden

I'd be upset if I were you too! Obviously your sister just doesn't "get it." We make sacrifices to keep me home with the girls too, but with my 3 kids and one with medical needs, it certainly doesn't pay to put them in daycare! Just try to take some deep breaths, and I hope you feel better knowing that many of us understand what you're going through. This will all be worth it in the long run!

"Formerly known as Ranae"

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"Things that matter the most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least." Goethe

sounds to me like jelousy too.

personally i think all stay-at-home-moms deserve a major award.