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I'm so sorry you girls don't have the relationship you want with your moms. Maybe one day they will come around and realize what they are missing.

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Well, my mother and I are best friends but neither for us can stand her mother. So we have no realtionship with her. I have no grandmother and I often have to help my mom deal with her feelings about her mom. I do understand how you feel.

I haven't spoken to my mother in two years this coming June. She has made repeated lifestyle choices I can't condone and expose my family to. I'm sad sometimes that I don't have that person I should to call upon but at the same time I am a much stronger woman and mother because of the things that woman put me through. Mother's day will still be special to me because I have two beautiful children to celebrate it with. I'm sorry that so many others have similar situations but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

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Kimberly mom to Kayla (12/07), AJ (4/04), and baby Ben (10/07)

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I do the same thing when it comes to picking out Mother Day cards, I just find a simple one and leave it to that.
I send pictures of her only 2 grandkids but other then that I may talk to her only once every two months since I moved to Maryland from Alaska.
When I lived in Alaska and only a mile from her I talked to her maybe once a month and she would only see her oldest grandkid which is is my 9 yr old daughter if my daughter called her and asked her if she could come over on a Sunday afternoon.
My sister just moved back home with my parents, at the age of 27 and my parents just love that she is there. She has always been their favorite but what is really sad is since we moved my mom hardly does or gets things for my daughter because she is not living in Alaska no more....and my daugther really misses getting stuff from her when all her friends tell her what their grandparents got and do for them all the time...it just breaks my heart.
I look at my mom as a person that wanted kids and had then but didn't know how to be a real parent and now she is doing a really bad job as a grandparent.

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I'll be calling my mother on the phone, but that's it. Hopefully, it will be a short conversation. I gave up on cards years ago; they all mention love and being there, and none of it fits. If I could find one that says, "Thanks for giving birth to me." that would be accurate.

BUT, I have a friend who is a single mom, with a son in a wheelchair and a young daughter. She has no family around, and her children can't go get anything for her, so I'm buying her a box of her favorite chocolates (Roger's) and some flowers. She's an awesome mother and I want the day to be special for her.

That's AWESOME of you,,, makes me want to thank you. I was a single parent with basically no support group for many years, and that's VERY kind of you. I know she'll be so touched!

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I don't have a very good relationship with my Mom but we are working on it and trying our best to tolerate each other. I just pray that my DD and I will have a better relationship!

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Angie
Married to my best friend 9.99
Mother since 4.04 to "Bobo" and his "baby" 9.06

I am truly sorry that your relationships with your mothers are not what they should be. Although my mother and I have a somewhat relationship... I pay for the sins of my mother in law. I feel so bad for my husband. He has always desperatly wanted to have that Mom figure in his life. She just couldn't be. It annoys and hurts to no end. She will call after months or years and go well I am coming to see you. Then a day before goes... well I couldn't make it cause we feel in love with NY, Mass.. whatever her excuse is.

He has a tendency to push me away about 4+ times a year just to see if I will leave him. At times it is really hard not to. For the last year and a half it has been really hard. I think it is finally dawning on him how horrible she was. His father has opened up about somethings to me... and finally to hubby.

Sorry for the babble but I really can't talk to anyone else about how horrible she is. Although at times she is my comic relief. Example? Everytime I have been pregnant she says she is pregnant (FIL knows she had her tubes tied after hubby so that ain't possible but it is truly annoying)

Thanks for letting me rant...

I had a decent relationship with my mom but she died 3 years ago and had to live in a nursing home for the 2 years before that because of a medical accident and was not able to communicate so I haven't really had a mom in 5 years. My dad remarried a little over a year ago and I was hoping that I would at least get a woman friend out of the deal but the woman doesn't want anything to do with us. She buys my kids gifts occassionally but will never spend any time with us and I am sick of trying to make an effort. My dad thinks she's a wonderful grandma because she buys my kids stuff. For me love is spelled T-I-M-E and that is something she won't give us. Oh well, I might find a card that just says Happy Mother's Day on it with a cat or something. She likes cats better than people anyway. Definitely nothing gushy though because I don't want to lie to her.

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ds 6, dd 4, dd 3, dd 1

I have struggled with the urge to post something similar to this for the past few days. I have been reading all these posts about how everyone is celebrating Mothers day, I even commented what DH and I were going to do for his mom. My relationship with my mom is almost non existant. She didn't want to be a mother to me until I was grown up and on my own. I was rasied by various family memebrs until I was put into foster care at age 14. Out of catholic guilt I maintain the tiniest thread of communication with her. I wish I could just turn my back on her the way she did to me when I was a child.

I will call her tomorrow but that is it. I would rather buy her a card but they are too mushy and none of them say how I feel... besides I could never send it if it did.

I have been so depressed the past few days, neither of my kids will be around tomorrow, DH thinks the holiday is an excuse to spend money (he is not the father of my kids.) and I don't have a real mother to honor.