who doesn't have a relationship with their mother?? And is planning on doing absolutely NOTHING for her??

I see all these posts....and quite honestly I am jealous. I so wish that I did have a relationship with her, I wish I had that one person that I could call for anything at anytime, but I don't.

It is a long sad story that I won't go into .... I tried to have a "normal" relationship for years, and she just doesn't want one. It is what it is, nothing, but that doesn't make it any easier....

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

No, you're not alone. I don't have a real relationship w/my mother, either. I bought her a couple token items that say grandma but I can't rely on her as a daughter should be able to. I get upset too when I hear other people talk about the things they do w/their moms.

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I am in the same boat as you. LONG story and I have tried though I ask myself why I am the one making the effort it should totally be on her. But I too have accepted that it is what it is, and I guess it's how she wants it. I used to do nothing for her, now I have come to terms with things and I send a card thought it is not one of those your a great mom ones, a basic happy mothers day. I still feel I have to be good christian and honor my mother!

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"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous

I have some sort of relationship with my mom but nothing close.She destroyed that chance 3 times when she kicked me out of the house 3 times just b/c she couldnt handle me as a teenager.Then she kept destroying me untill I decided to fight back and say I am done.

I too get jealous.I tell those who do have a great relationship to cherish it.As my mother did what she did,she taught me NOT to do this to my kids.

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I do not talk to my mother at all. She doesn't even know she has a second grandchild. Her choice. She choose a different path in life that I did not want to follow. I tried when I had my first dd because I thought she should know her grandchildren and like she always does she messed it up and I turned away again. I think she is living in OK, at least that is where the unsigned Bday card was postmarked. I used to get real upset on Mother's Day and now dh always makes it real special for me. This year he is taking us to the zoo, out to dinner, and there is a box in the back of his truck. I think it's the yard swing I wanted!

Nope, you're not alone. After many years of trying, I finally decided that having no relationship with my mother is the best thing for both of us. Oddly enough, she and my sister are very close. Good for them. They can both be dysfunctional together!

this is my situation to a T.

In addition, I can't say that I am glad that I am not alone, but it does make me feel better.

Thank you everyone.

And Jen~I want a yard swing too!! Hope that is what that box is!!

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

I have a difficult relationship with my Mother. I sent her a card but it took me a long time to find just the right card, they were all too mushy. I do visit her once a year but we stay in a hotel so I can see her on my own terms.

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I feel for you. I know that we all have different degrees of dysfunction with our Mothers, so I do understand. I have a long story too, but my Mom tends to be around when she needs something, or over does it and buys our affection, I think in order to "secure" her place in our lives when she gets older. There are many other things. She hasn't seen my sister and my sister's kids in over 7 years. She hasn't made the trip back to see them. It's ridiculous. Anyway, like I said, long story. Be thankful that you can learn from her mistakes and try to have a better relationship with your own children...that is my goal.

I will be posting this about father's when father's day comes around.

allgirls

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