My hubby is so strange. I wanted to go to a car show I have been mentioning all week and he got all cranky and pissy about it. How it was going to take away from his time....time on the computer and the romp I promised him. He insists on being on the computer by 10:30 PM every Wednesday and Friday so he can play on XBOX live with his little gamer clan....grrr.

Most men would be thrilled to go to a classic car show but he gets angry anytime I mention one. I would usually go with just my DD but he took today off to spend with us. I also don't feel comfortable going later at night with my DD and being 7 months pregnant. I swear his mother who was raised poorer than poor...ate dandelion greens for dinner many nights due to a lack of food....whose fondest childhood memory is sticking her bare feet into cow pies to cool them off during the summer....convinced him that camping, car shows or most other enjoyable things in life are things that trashy people do...grrr.

He finally compromised and I got about 20 minutes at the car show and then he insisted on leaving. I suggested we get a snack from a vendor...that he enjoy a beer at the beer tent and that we take our DD to her favorite bookstore and just enjoy ourselves. He was like you saw the show lets go I have plans. He wouldn't even let our DD stop and listen to a band play.

Today I did not want to go out earlier but I made a point to offer up his favorite restaurant for lunch (we do this when he has a long weekend due to a holiday) and made sure we got to the store to get a few things he needed and to buy the stuff to make the special dinner he requested.

When we got home I wanted to let our DD have a few minutes to chill out and he wanted her read to and in bed immediately because he wanted his romp and he wanted it now...time was ticking and he did not want to be even 1 minute late to play with his friends online....grrr. I cannot figure out why he feels if he is not just on time to his online game he feels he is going to miss out...reality is guys pop in and out of the games over the 1-2 hours he plays and the longest they wait is 5 minutes to hop in.

I know gaming is his way to chill out...but geez having the day off and sleeping to noon is so hard on him Hmmm and he wonders why our little one gets the habit of getting so pissy and getting a bad attitude when she is taken to more than 3 places other than school in a day.

Jen

Uh I dont think so! First off if my hubby told me to put our kid to sleep and give him his romp because he had things to do, well lets just say he would be doing everything by himself for a LONG TIME! I would so not put up with that! You need to put him in his place and let him know that it is not okay to treat you that way and that if he keeps it up he will be doing lots of things by himself and in another house! Sorry if this sounds harsh but people will only treat you the way you allow them, and you dont deserve this kind of treatment. Stand up for yourself and let him know that you aint takin it no more. He will be pissy at first but if you stick to it then he will realize you aint playin and will get with the program, besides he already is pissy so whats the big deal if he is for you standing up for yourself. At least then you will have something to show for yourself.

All I have to say is that I would have given my DH his walking papers if he would have been more concerned about XBOX than his family. Don't get me wrong, my DH gets his attitude and has his priorities so screwed up at times, but I bascially tell him NO, that the kids come first. As far has DH demanding a romp....guess again! That would NEVER happen in my household. If it were me at the car show and DH said "lets' go", I would have told him to take the bus home or start thumbing it! Men are so selfish!

Okay you are a much nicer woman than I am. I will not be put second to a video game. I understand wanting to have some game time and time to do your own thing but not at the expense of the family. At that point I would have told him that from now on he can just stay home because he will not ruin my fun.

My dh wouldn't have wanted to go to a car show either but if I wanted to go he would tag along or I would go by myself. Dh ruined a few things for me early on by compaining and just being a grump and so I told him that if he didn't want to go that was fine and to just stay home next time. But if he did go then he better put on a happy face or I would make sure he started missing out on things he likes to do.

We still go to things together but if its something one or the other of us would absolutely hate we let the other go alone or with friends. We do not put a damper on each other's enjoyment.

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How incredibly chidlish and selfish. Hopefully he wakes up one day soon and realizes he has a family that needs his time and attention. My ex was the same way except his "romp" was with the volunteer fire company and ambulance. I begged him for 15 yrs to participate in our family, we are now divorced and our kids will have nothing to do with him.

I wish you the best of luck