My dh were discussing this the other day. We each have one sibling. His sister and BIL live in a different state - hours and hours away. Dh will often go years without physically seeing them. They are GREAT people, and I can't wait to get to know them better, but they don't really know "us" as a couple, if that makes sense. My brother and his fiance live about 5 hours away. My brother doesn't like me, plain and simple. Just an example, but during our entire wedding (day before, actual wedding day, and the next day), he said NOTHING to either of us, even though he was an usher. He just doesn't like me. That's the best way to explain it. So we're not sure we would want them to have our child.

So. . . when we're blessed with kids, we are going to have a very hard time choosing the godparents. We have friends, but we don't have super close friends that we would want to entrust our children to, if that makes sense.

I'm curious how you guys chose godparents for your child. Thanks for sharing!

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Well it came down to my husband's mother and sibblings barely can take care of themselves much less our children. My mother and father are both in their 70's, leaving only my brother and sister-in-law. My brother has a few different values from us (not bad just different) but they both really, REALLY love our children and truthfully isn't that all that matters?

Well for us, Godparents are people that help in the spiritual journey of your child. We're Catholic, and that's how it worked for my family growing up, our friends etc Perhaps in other faiths, the Godparent is the Guardian...I really do not know.

Each of our children have a Godmother and Godfather and they just happen to be very close friends of ours. The Guardian for our children is outlined in our will, and is not any of the Godparents.

Good point, Oregano. I should have made that more clear. I know that different faiths have different interpretations of godparents. I think we would have the same people be the godparents as well as the guardians.

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Our godparents are not our guardians. Since we are Catholic one godparent has to be Catholic. I only have one brother, dh has none. So he was ds #1's godfather, his godmother was a college friend of mine - non-Catholic, but has a strong faith.

Ds #2 my high school friend (Catholic) and a good friend of dh's from college are his godparents.

DD the same high school friend (we still needed a Catholic) and another good friend of dh from college are her godparents.

Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of family to draw from and we are pretty picky about having Christians for godparents whether they are Catholic or not. They will always be there for our kids, but are not necessarily the guardians.

If you are asking about guardians, that is a whole other post!

Well my church technically we dont have to have godparents! (to be honest I never did have any ~ I was baptised while stilll in the hospital since I was not suppose to live)

anyhow! I did choose my Brother and his wife!! they have a better family sit than any of his sisters!! plus I do not trust them with my children!! dh knows that and none of them really go to church!! my SIL is Very into church and practices it in the home!( my brother he goes along with it but) the reason we chose them is cause of my Brothers wife!! plus they will make sure my kids get what they need and also can support them! my DH family well there kids seem to never have anything and they cannot even support what they have at all!! (not that my kids need everything but they do need the basics) and his family I just dont feel will be able to even give them that!! plus my kids do not know them very well (there fault in my eyes!! they like to tell me what a bad mother I am etc and have told my kids not to listen to me!! anyhow!!

that is how we chose my BRother!!

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It's interesting how people decide...

My parents are both only children...so when they chose Godparents for myself and my sisters, they were all close friends and back then, both had to be Catholic. I am fortunate to have a close bond with both my Godmother and Godfather. My sisters though, did not remain close with their Godparents...people moved etc

I have two sisters and Dh has two brothers but we chose close friends to be our children's Godparents. I guess I sorta followed in my parents footsteps. The Godparents are not married to each other either, same as my own Godparents. Two were single when we chose them...we just made our decisions based on the individual person, not a couple.

Well, my boys have godparents from their Baptisms, which is like how Oregano described. For DS1 we picked my sister and dh's brother. For ds2, we picked my aunt (my own godmother ) and dh's best friend since childhood. That said, none of these people would be the guardians of my children if something were to happen to dh and I. Dh and I cannot think of anyone we would want raising the kids. Probably my parents would end up taking them, they are financially stable, but I don't think they would do a great job with the boys, no offense to them. DS1 is disabled and they tend to play that up and over-dramatize, whereas we try to make him do everything that he can do that typical kids do. And DS2 is very active, my parents yell at him a lot when he visits and tend to show preference to my oldest. It wouldn't be terrible if they had them, they are responsible and secure. But I think it would have a negative outcome on them emotionally. I pray everyday for God to give me life in my body until my kids reach independence, at least.

My kids godparents are not their guardians. It is interesting to me that in some faiths the godparents are the same as the guardians, I thought godparents were always to guide spiritually, not to necessarily be their guardian. I don't think I would like having to have them the same person because then i would feel that all my kids would have to have the same godparents and think it their god parents are special to them. Ds's has three, my sister, dh's sister (those two are basically because we had to have them) and dh's uncle who is a wonderful person and a great godparent.
DD's are dh's cousin who we are really close to and dh's brother in law (this wasn't my choice but I could not come up with a better godfather, but in retrospect, I should have chosen my best friend and she could just have had 2 godmothers)

Well with all of my children, I asked my favorite cousin to be godfather. DH & I could never decide on a godmother.