I know she means well but i'm honestly tired of her calling me 2 to 3 times a day to ask me how it's going. She is not asking about my daily stuff, she's asking about the current head lice situation (me and dd). What does she expect me to say? " we got it covered?", "Hey, i found another nit in the last 2 hours" ,I didn't realize that head lice required frequent hourly updates....it's not like we are in the ICU with it?!
So when i am at the point of being ready to snap over this constant ritual of washing bedding, towels and vaccuming everything, running the nit comb thru both of our heads and giving us both the shower cap treatments every 2-3 days,,,,i start to vent to her about it. What does she say?....She says " well, that is what you get for letting her spend the night at all these strangers houses, I KNEW this was going to happen, blah, blah, blah.......and a bunch of other crap about keeping the house spotless, etc. GRRRRRR! I let her spend the night ONCE at a neighbors and honestly it was DH that allowed her too, because she asked when i was at work and dh being the wonderful father that he is (yes that is sarcasm) felt he would rather let her go than have to hear her whine about it while he's watching t.v. So he basicly let her go so he could watch t.v. uninterupted. Besides that if my mother claims she KNEW this was going to happen it is funny how she never mentioned it at all until AFTER it happened. Now i have to hear it every stinking time she calls!!!
So everyday she calls and asks how it's going.........and i have gotten to the point that i just now tell her " Holy Crap, the house is just infested with it!!" She is constantly lecturing me how to take care of the lice problem,,,,,,yeah, something she's never experienced in her life, but since she read about it on the internet (and so have i) she is suddenly the expert on it. Yeah mom, i KNOW already! I'm so fricken tired of the lectures everyday, 2-3 times a day! She tells me each time she calls the same things over and over and over again.
Of course i am upset that dd has gotten head lice (and me too) but geez, i cannot make her prisoner in our house and forbid her to ever play with another child again......i'm not going to homeschool her (no offense to those who do), I'm not going to keep her away from any public places, social events or school events because i fear every germ or bug that might cross our paths. She got it, i have pretty much pinpointed the source and she is no longer allowed to play at that house, she has no contact with the child that gave it to her(they are moving anyway). I just want this over and i'm tired of the lectures!

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Is your Mom local? How about going over to her house and you and dd lay on one of her pillows while she is in another part of the house. She deserves to "share the joy" since she's such an expert on it. Sorry for your trouble. You're a good Mom who tries to cover all the bases but when other's (DH) drop the ball, you're left cleaning up the crap. Blue skies ahead-literally.

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1/ Just because the phone rings does not mean you have to answer it. Screen your calls and pick up when it suits you.
2/ Your mother is lonely and needs to find an outlet/friends/activities her own age to keep her busy. She's reaching out to you because she has nothing. That's my guess.

Good luck w/ the lice!

Maybe you need to tell her (gently ) that you could really use some support right now instead of a lecture....you already feel like crap!!?? Go easy on her...someday she won't be around and you'll wish you could hear her nagging voice again ! My mom (foster) died over 4 years ago....I wish she could call me 4 times a day, even if only to nag me. Take a few deep breaths and keep up the good work.

Oh oh oh I would so just say problem solved I just shaved all out heads so that they will go away... see what she has to say about that.

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I agree with Calimari. My mother does this kind of stuff to me too. Drives me insane. I realize it is because she is lonely, but for my own sanity I have to screen my calls otherwise I would be talking on the phone about the same things over and over for hours each day. You might want to try just screening your calls too before you reach your limit and say something you may regret later. Good luck!

I do try to screen my calls but i am not always able to get to the phone before my kids do. Once they answer the phone, i am screwed because i'm not going to tell them to lie to Grandma for me.
You have to know the history of my mom to understand the vent. It could very well be that she is lonely. Only if i were half as critical to my friends as she is to me, i wouldn't have any friends left. It's not just the head lice issue, she has a lecture and opinion on everything, talks down to me like i am in first grade and if she is ever wrong you will never hear an apology from her, EVER.
For those that have June Cleaver for a mother, i congratulate you, but not everyone does.

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Tanya, I am so sorry you have to deal with the crap from your mother on top of all the other crap!!!

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I know this is stressful. Like you need more, eh?

Maybe you could tell her in a pleasant but firm tone that you would love to talk to her about anything else, but this issue is just stressful already and you'd rather not talk about it anymore. Then, if she continues, let her know that you have to go, but you will try to talk to her tomorrow (couple days, next week, up-coming millineum...you pick ). She probably won't get the message, but you will get off the phone. As much as I adore, respect, and love my mother, she has a way of harping on things until there seems to be an echo reverberating in my head. I feel your pain.

Good luck.

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I like the tell her you shaved everyones head idea. She probably wouldn't think it as funny though. Sorry you are going through this!

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