My friend who lost her daughter last October found out she was expecting again. They had planned on having another so she is really excited. Her first apt was today and they did not find a heartbeat. They did an ultrasound and found the baby died at about 8 weeks. She would be almost 13 weeks now. She called me in tears and is asking why is she being punished? I don't know what to say besides I am sorry. She has gone through so much this year. I am at a loss myself. I know these things happen but what can you say to a friend when they have gone through so much already.

That is awful. All you can do is say you're sorry. What else is there?

I'm sorry as well.

I think the best thing you can do is be a shoulder she can cry on!!! Just knowing you are there is what will helpher the best!! prayers for your friend and you for supporting her!

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That is about all I could say too

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i am in kind of a similar situation and sometimes being quiet and letting them use us as a shoulder just to cry on or even scream at...just listen and wrap your arms around her while she tries to deal. she knows in her heart that you really do not have any answers for her...afterall, only God knows these things and they are not for us to know. He will see her through.

You are such a caring friend. She is lucky to have someone like you in her life. I agree with everyone, you should just be her shoulder to cry on and someone to scream with.

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I agree, just let her know that you are sorry and be a shoulder to cry one. She probably needs that more than anything. She needs a good friend and it sounds like you are a great one. I am very sorry to hear about her loss.

I agree

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So sorry for her and her family. Just be there for her. No one knows why things like that happen so it's hard to answer her. I had three miscarriages in one year! It was the worst time of my life...very confusing! It was not only hard physically but also emotionally, mentally and spiritually! I had/still have a lot of unanswered questions. It was nice to just know that certain people understood my pain and that they were there if I needed to talk or needed someone to pray with me. There are some sites about miscarriage, that I went on too that helped out, just hearing someone elses similar story...knowing that someone had the same feelings and questions I had, helped.

I have had 2 losses myself, I will tell you that she needs your support, if she wants to cry let her cry if she wants a hug give her one if she laughs at nothing laugh w/ her, just be her friend and be there it will mean everything to her.