Hi guys,
I am new here. In fact, I am a brand new SAHM. I have a beautiful baby boy and a super-supportive husband. With that said, I have no friends who have been able to become SAHM's. They all want to, but for one reason or another won't take the plunge. I did and now every single friend I have drops little cutting comments like, "So what do YOU DO all day?" and "Gee, it must be nice" dripping with sarcasam. They have all pretty much alienated me in their own way. I know that they ALL want this for themselves. I am careful not to brag or bost about my new 'job'. I never thought I would get this kind of treatment.
It would make me feel alot better to hear from some other SAHMs who have had similar situations. How did you handle it? What did you do? How did it all turn out?
Thanks Mommysavers!
-30

Well, for one the same thing happened to me and I just chalked it up to the mean ugly "J" word.....a tad bit of jealousy maybe. It does irk me b/c people tend to think that being a SAHM is a bed of roses....well sometimes it may be but we work just as hard or harder than women who leave the house to work a secular job. Because we are home more I think our Dh's and kids too expect more out of us....and we have the tendency or at least I do to make sure everything is always perfect so when the dh gets home he can see I have done more than NOTHING all day.

I personally enjoyed being a sahm and found it a lot easier than after I started working full time again. Now I still have to try to do all the same things plus put in a 40 hour work week.

I say enjoy this time in your life, and who really cares what anyone else thinks? You only have the one time when they are little. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

I love being at home with my baby (I'm also 30 with a little baby boy). I feel a little lost since I was a career woman before my baby came. I don't have many other mom-friends, so I don't get the jealousy note from others - but I do get the "wow, you're so lucky" from other random people. I suppose I am lucky, but we DID choose to make certain sacrifices in lifestyle for me to be at home. It's not so easy to just cut $50k out of the budget.

I have noticed that my husband doesn't help out as much around the house now that I'm at home. It's ok - after all, I am here and I can do more - but it makes me wonder if we'll ever go back to the way we used to split chores when I go back to work (when I worked full time we split the chores, and the house was always pretty messy)!

I do take pride in the fact that DH can devote his brain to work while he's there and not worry about things on the home front. He's been able to take on more responsibility than some of the other guys who have to leave to pick up kids from daycare. (Along with the more responsibility, he's been promised a raise ... soon... we'll see.) I love that I'm here to be available for home repair people and other miscellaneous things that used to be a juggling act when we were both working full time.

Some days it seems like an easy job being at home, some days the loneliness makes an easy job hard to do. Other days are just plain hard (give me a away-from-home job on those teething days and I'd have it made!).

I've found that it is all in what you make of it.......some days it will feel like a "job". I"ve had PLENTY of times when I called my husband and put my "two week notice" in! But, I also have the satisfaction of raising and training my babies in a way that no one could. (In my own opinion.) Some days I am quite productive, and others I barely slither by!!!

That being said, my sister in law works and is always making comments about how bored she would be staying home all day. Blah, blah, blah. I dont let it bother me.....we've made our choice based on what WE think is best for our family and she made her choice based on what she thought was best for her family. Just be confident in your decision......

i ahve always been a sahm. and we defintely do not just sit around all day. it is a 24 hour a day job!!! and i ahte it people think otherwise. it is really not easy to stay home with the kids,LOL. but sometimes i feel guilty in a way for it, since my husband has to work 6 days a week. even though i do work in a way. there is more to working and supporting a family then bringing home a pay check.

I say I play all day with my baby. You should try it. I usually only do that if the comments are negative. Otherwise I say more than could ever imagine.

I was lucky or unlucky b/c most of my friends have their kids much earlier than me. so I was the new mom. They were all just so happy that I was finally a mom.

I am sorry u are going through this. I don't know why we judge other women who are our friends so harshly.
allgirls

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allgirls, mom to 3 girls