I don't know why this bothers me so much but it is. My youngest dd, age 10, went to a sleepover Saturday night and the movie that was shown to the girls was "8 mile." I just don't think that this movie was an appropriate choice for these parents to allow other people's kids watch. There was mention of a movie on the invitation but I really thought it would be something age appropriate. Last weekend, when my dd had her sleepover, they watched the Cheetah Girls 2 movie. I just think maybe, I am overreacting and letting it bug me too much. It isn't that I don't think my daughter isn't mature enough to watch it, but I think that is the type of movie a parent should be watching with someone this age. So what do you think? Is 8 mile an inappropriate movie for a sleepover with pre-teen girls?

This has happened to me before...my son was 7 and he went to a sleepover and they watched JAWS! Ugh. He was so upset and had nightmares for days. I think some people just don't think that other kids might be frightened by certain movies that their kids aren't for whatever reason.

I didn't say anything to Mom other than the next time I saw her I mentioned that he was so freaked by the JAWS movie and she apologized like crazy. But I learned my lesson, after that, I made sure I let the parents know what my perimeters are and the kids know too. They're old enough now to be able to say "I don't really want to watch that".

Isn't 8 Mile rated R? I haven't seen it but it isn't something I'd want my kids to watch. I'd be aggravated too!

There is no way that you are overreacting!!! I can't believe someone would think that would even be remotely appropriate for any kid, 10 year olds especially!

My dd went to my In-laws and I'm still mad they let her watch Drop Dead Fred...and not the t.v. version...the actual movie!

I turned off Legally Blonde the other day when the neighbor kids were over just because I didn't think some of it was appropriate for them and they are allowed to watch anything at their house!

Some parents.....

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I honestly don't know what it is rated but there is one very graphic sex scene where Brittany Murphy is getting it on with some guy in a music studio. Not exactly what I want my 10 yr old to be watching at someone else's house, ya know?

It is R, I looked it up at the movie database site: www.imdb.com

According to the database website: "Rated R for strong language, sexuality, some violence and drug use."

OY! I can't believe they let 10 year olds watch that! Wugh. What did your DD say about it? Is she really good friends with the child in this family?

In no way are you overreacting! Personally I can't stand Eminem either! I think now a days some parents are so lienient on the movies that there kids watch that they don't even think about other peoples kids! Don't get me wrong I do let my kids watch tv and such, but it is very limited to age appropriate shows(my boys are 4 and almost 6) No spongebob or cartoon network. I also am cautious about certain disney movies.

Anyway, in the case of the sleepover, next time I would call the mother first and talk to her about any concerns you may have before hand. I'm glad this topic came up because I know we are going to getting into this area with our oldest starting school.

Good luck!

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Wow, yeah, that's quite inappropriate for a 10 year-old to see. What you can do for now is talk to your daughter about what she saw. Does she have questions? How did it make her feel? The next time there's a sleepover (anywhere) ask, when you RSVP, which movies will be shown. If they start rattling off some borderline ones, ask that if they can stick with PG or PG-13, whatever your preference is.

Also, teach your daughter what movies she's allowed to watch so she can speak up if something goes through the cracks at movie time. "I'm not allowed to watch these movies yet." If you ever have a sleepover, I'm sure you'll be more inclined to specify on the invitation what movies will be featured at your home, that way no one can say, "My child can't watch The Grudge" just kidding.

I don't know if you feel the need to say something to the parent(s). Maybe they didn't know that the movie got popped in after they went to bed, or something (I'm reaching here!). But let them know the movie was rated R and that it would have been nice if you'd been informed of that beforehand. Tell them it made for a nice conversation with your little girl later though.

Wow, I would be upset too. My son is 9 and if for some reason I thought it was okay for him to see an R rated movie you can bet I'd want to be there. I don't feel he should see those movies yet. PG or PG-13 is plenty. There is a rating for a reason. Personally I wouldn't even show a PG-13 without parental permission.

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WHAT??????? I would be soooooooo angry. I would call the parent and tell them that choice of movie was not appropriate. My child would not be going back over to that persons home. They cannot make good decisions.

I saw it and the sex scenes were very graphic.

Shew i am angry for you!!! Not what a ten year old should be watching at all.

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That si crazy! she is 10 and wtaching a PG13 or R rated movei!! movies should be age appropriate.

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