Ditto

I'll bet it was just a first reaction from you. It probably could have been handled better like the others said. To avoid hard feelings with her, I would probably tell her you are sorry you yelled, but to please ask you first before cutting her hair in the future.

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well i personally would have been mad(thank god my mil would ask she knows better and i was a hairdresser) i think sometimes grandparents mean well but they overstep there bounds.. i'm sure you were just reacting and yelling might not have been the best choice but hey ya never know what you will do in a moment...i would just give her a call say hey i'm sorry i yelled but in the future could you refrain from making such decisions without talking to me first...

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Okay, I would have had a fit. And, yep, ..I would have yelled. If it had been my mil, my dh, whoever....I would have yelled, just from gut reaction...if they did it without asking me. That is not her place...and you have every right to be ticked off. How did she take it when you yelled, by the way?? I cut my nieces bangs when I go home every few months..but I know they always wait on me to get there to do it!! I would never ever think to overstep the bounds and cut them without asking or being requested to.

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I have to agree yelling at her after she was kind enough to give your child a bath isn't exactly the thing to do. But that being said I would have been very upset. Even if she was well intended she is a mom too and should have known to ask first when it comes to the kids. I am not one to yell especially at inlaws, but I can understand first responses. I probably would have said too "what are you doing" in that upset sort of way.

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"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous

Me too! However I don't get along with my mil and wouldn't let her give her a bath either. The only other person other my my dh and I that can give my kids a bath is my mom.

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A woman is like a teabag. You never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water.-Eleanor Roosevelt

to me, it's just hair. the fact that grandma wanted to spend quality time with your DD would have meant more to me than the fact that she didn't ask you. i'm also one of those people who won't care if my daughter takes a pair of scissors to her head or steps out of the house wearing a tutu and rainboots. it's individuality and i think kids need to be themselves.
also, what example are you setting for your daughter by yelling at someone? kids follow your lead....

shannon

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I would have been pissed and yelled! Simply as that! I could only imagine walking in the bathroom and she is holding scissors to your dd's hair! Yeah, maybe yelling isnt the "best" thing to do but what were you supposed to do...tell her to put the scissors down and back away slowly?

My grandmother actually cut my dd's bangs without me knowing and she called my almost in tears. She knew I wanted them cut but didnt have the time so she started then remembered that she never asked me so she stopped right then and called. I was glad she did but I would have been so mad if I would have walked in and she was doing it without me asking!

So yes, I think you did the right thing and I would have done it too!

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Stephanie

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with MIL, if she is never there and showed up and is being nice, but went too far, then it is fine. If she is the stereotypical rey haired, soft spoken grandmother, then maybe too harsh. If it was my MIL I would be mad, but not yell, I would be like "Moo-oom! (whine), what did you do?" I get on wll with my MIL, so I know she was trying to help.

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with money we dont have,
in order to impress people
we dont like?
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I would have been very mad too!

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