same here! I would seriously be SO upset because we have not cut her hair yet, not once! (I know, weird since she is 2 1/2 yo) but I would have been so upset. For a while both my mil and my mom would say we need to cut her some bangs and I stood strong and made it known if ANYONE cut her hair there would be a price to pay! Maybe I shouldn't be that way, but it's something I feel strongly about. I think it's disrespectful that she didn't ASK you first! It is YOUR Dd afterall. However, I am SURE she did it with good intentions and probably thought she was helping her granddaughter see better. I'm sure she didn't do it to offend you or upset you.

Thanks for all the input. I don't regret what I did, she seriously need boundries!!

I would have been ticked off!

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I would have been ticked, especially since i am growing out my dd's bangs. I'm sure I would have yelled too. THey need to respect you as her parent and ask before doing anything like that.

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i would have yelled too!! it is all about respect.

It seems that everyone is forgetting that hindsight is 20/20. In the heat of a moment like that, yelling is fine. It was a gut reaction. I would have done the same thing. Of course it isn't the way I would want to handle a situation, but I doubt I would have been able to stop and calmly decide how to react.

I know it's just hair - and some people think that you are self-centered for caring about it, but it does mean something and it is a first impression that you make. Sorry - but if your kid's hair looks all crazy and chopped up - you look a little crazy as their parent. While I don't want my kids to be obsessed about their looks - being clean and well-groomed is just something that will usually work in your favor throughout your life.

One positive thing - when your DD heard you yell - she may have realized how upset you were. Hopefully she will never let grandma (or anyone else for that matter) cut her hair without your permission. Hopefully she'll never try to trim it herself either!

Well I'm not forgetting...LOL. Of course hindsight is 20/20 but I wouldn't yell anyhow. I'm just not a yeller and there is no way I'd yell at anyone actually, much less a family member. Respect is a two way street. At least in my world. *shrug* We're all different. :D

I'm with you Oregano. There's NO WAY I would have yelled at my mother or mil in that situation (actually I can't imagine any situation I would have lost control with them). I might have made it clear I wasn't happy with something like "Oh gee, I wish you'd asked me first". But I just can't imagine yelling at ANYONE over something so silly as bangs. But especially not a parent. I'm always telling my children how they have to speak respectfully to us, their parents, and I couldn't tell them that with a straight fact if I turn around and speak disrespectfully to one of our own parents. JMO

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I will tell you the truth:

If it had been my mom, I would have laughed it off...

Brad's mom on the other hand, I may have went crazy on her. I probably would have left With my kids!

Calli's hair is in her eyes, but she is not getting a haircut till she is one! Sydni the same thing! She has no hair though... well she has a rat tail Evan had his first haircut on his 1st birthday and my mom took him to Cookie Cutters since it was his first! I was in the hospital getting to leave with the twins and she called hysterical! They had gave him a big boy haircut! I didn't get upset, but it was my mom

Now that was my story and I am finished now OH and Calli had pig tails the other day

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well, this has happened to me, not with inlaws but with my mom doing it without asking me...it was my dd first hair cut and she took it upon herself to cut her hair without asking me first. And she's done it ever since, which really makes me angry. It's my decision as a parent to get my kids hair cut no matter if it is hanging in their eyes or not...it's not the grandparents decision.

Yes, I was livid and yes, I yelled at her. I would've been even more angry had it been an inlaw (when I had one), but probably wouldn't have yelled.