What's your opinion on saving seat for family members at events like school programs, dance shows, sporting events, etc? I get frustrated when I see people save a whole entire row, but I don't see a problem saving a few seats for some family members. Last night the girls had their dance show and I saved a spot for one set of grandparents, and a spot for my dd who had to join us in the bleachers when she was done. Most people were ok with it, but one grandmother was rude to me. "you don't need a spot that big for 2 people". I explained my dd had to come up as well, and yes we were cramped together once they were all seated.
Do you save spots for acouple family members?

We have this issue every year with dance recitals. When you get your tickets you're told you can have as many tickets as you need, but seat saving will be limited to 4 PER FAMILY. Meaning, I had 13 people come to see DD at her recital and all but 5 went together, I could only hold 4 seats (and they checked!) luckily everyone else showed up together and were able to get a seat with us, but I agreed with the rules. It HAS to be limited otherwise too many people will save entire rows.

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Thanks for the tip. I am going to suggest a 4 seat save limit for school. I don't agree with the entire row, but don't mind a few seats.

forgot to add: our school also auctions the front row as a fundraiser. I forgot the seat amount b/c it gets so high that I don't think it's worth it.

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I don't have a problem with a few seats, but a whole row, I do.

I do have a problem with a few seats when it comes to church. It gets so crowded at our church at Easter and Christmas and then you have people who never come but those days saving entire rows for family that isn't there until the last second? Drives me nuts! We get there an hour early and there is always a couple of families that have sent ONE person to save entire pews. Then they show up with one minute left before Mass. I have to constantly count and pray and remind myself, "At least they are here now. That is what is important to God."

Then the seats will be for teenagers while older people or pregnant women or moms with young kids have to stand. Totally gets me going! Sorry if that insults anybody, but it is just a pet peeve. If sitting down is so important to you, then get there early enough to pray and get a seat!!! JMO

My grandmother in law happens to be in town for our son's Kindergarten play on Tuesday. She is 90 and is on a walker, but wants to go. I talked to the teacher and principal who will not let me save her a seat up front so it will be easy for her - they don't have "handicapped" seating, they said. I was hoping for that situation, they would make an exception, but they said no. So we will have to get there very early to make sure she has a safe seat.

I agree that a few seats are okay, but I also have a problem with saving a whole row of seats. I also think that 10-15 minutes before the event starts, all saved seats should be opened up and anyone should be able to sit there. If you want to guarantee yourself a seat then get to the event a little early.

Our school is way too small for the number of students and we have very little parking, so people are always using that as an excuse to sail in at the last minute. However, it's not exactly a surprise to them - every parent at the school knows you may have to park on a side street several blocks from the school, so why not plan accordingly?

Don't get me started on not being allowed to make arrangements for your grandmother - that is the most inconsiderate thing I have ever heard. How about teaching the students to respect their elders?

I'm with you, I think a few people are fine. A whole row, no, but three seats? Give me a break.

I see this in a different way.....we send a few family members to save seats for the other family members......but there is a good reason!!!!

We are a family of 9 and expecting again.......the twins just turned 2........we send one adult and one older child to save an entire row of seats for OUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY. There is NO WAY that we could have the 7 kids there including the 2-2 year olds for the hour before the program and expect them to still be quiet and well behaved by the time the program is scheduled to start. We have the rest of the family show up about 10 minutes before the program starts, everyone is happy and quiet for the program.


I do not see anything wrong with saving seats for elderly family members (grandparents, etc).

I find this appalling! I can't believe they would be so inconsiderate. I wonder if there is somebody you can take this to, that is a policy that needs to change

My dd's just had their christmas concert at Church Sunday evening and I had to save 5 spots. I was horrified and now REFUSE to do so!! I felt horrible!

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Thank you for typing that! I agree 100%. The church thing drives me NUTS!!

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