problem with my Mom giving MY things away!

3boysmommy · **problem with my Mom giving MY things away!**

I know my Mom's heart is in the right place, but it is getting so annoying. She offers things to other people that don't belong to her! Right now I am dealing with her offering a dresser we have in our garage to my brother to use for my niece. Now ....we were using it as storage when she started mentioning that my niece would put it to better use. Now we moved it back into my son's room, because it fit better than his other one, and she is still doing it! In her head if we aren't using something , or just not using it to her liking, or she think someone else could use it more, than it's fair game for her to try to give whatever it is away.

Anyone else have this happen?

Jodie · 12-09-2007, 11:16 PM

No i don't have this problem but i do think it is strange.

Have you tried telling her "Please don't offer our belongings until you have spoken to me?"

hope2 · 12-09-2007, 11:25 PM

my mil tried playing that game. My dh's bedroom set he grew up with wasn't allowed to leave her home. Although we could have used it for dd when we moved her out of the crib. We had to go buy new... Now the nephew is in need and wouldn't that be a nice place for it.... So then she played dh against me to try to get it.. uuggghhh...

melsb · 12-10-2007, 09:17 AM

One of my husband's sisters tried that with my daughter's toys / clothing one time for one her relatives. We just ignored her. Have you spoken with your mother about this?

3boysmommy · 12-10-2007, 12:05 PM

I have tried to talk to her about it, but it falls on deaf ears. She just thinks if we are not using something then she is "doing us a favor" by finding new homes for our stuff. I guess it doesn't matter to her that we may want to keep things (like baby stuff or furniture) for a later use. Or God forbid...sell it at a garage sale!

stevesgal · 12-11-2007, 09:02 AM

I have this issue with my MIL! It drives me nuts- I can't say anything about it though (God forbid if I say anything negative about DH's mom

!).

She likes to give away my kids things to my niece and one nephew and it makes me terribly upset and makes me look like I am ignorant. For my oldest she tries to give her clothes to my niece. My dd apprieciates her clothes and takes meticulous care of her clothes (I search for gently used and bargains for her clothes- which are mainly name brand)- for the most part I resell her clothes and have extra money to get her new clothes (we live off of 1 income so I have to stretch our $ anyway we can).

For my youngest-she tries to give away her toys to my one nephew. About 1.5 years ago she called me up with my SIL on the line as well and told me to give my nephew my dd's puppet set- since he would enjoy it very much. This was a present from my aunt during her first Christmas and she still plays with it (it has a few different puppets and a "stage"), to this day my SIL will ask when I will give it to her! The kicker was at dd's b-day party and she gave away my dd's kitchen set as she was opening it! She receive a nice Step 2 kitchen set and told my SIL (the same one who was told she could have the puppet set) that her son will get her kitchen set in time for Christmas so he will have a nice kitchen set to grow with!

I just bite my tongue- I have never flat out told anyone they could have anything that she has offered- I just say possibly when they are done with it- you maybe able to have it! I too feel your pain!

allgirls · 12-11-2007, 04:13 PM

I don't want to step on any toes, but I think it is a lack of respect for you. If she's not listening to you I dont know what to tell you expect it will get real ugly when she finally does hear you.