Same here.

He knows about the board but we never talk about it and he never asks. He will make a smart arse comment from time to time about it though.

If he already knows your screen name, there's nothing you can do....he could goto a public library, sign in to Mommysavers and read your posts that way, if he really wanted to....

I'd take it at face value....obvioulsly what he read got him off his tushy to help out. But like Ember said in that other post too...still talk to him. The problem can't be ignored now, and it would seen that if he is reading your posts, there is a lack of trust on his part. You need to ask him why.

As far the future and him reading your posts....he is already set his mind on since it's on the web, it's public....Get yourself another screen name and password and use it when you need to.... make sure you log off everytime you use the computer, and don't come to Mommysavers under that screen name if he is home and can read over your shoulder.

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I did forget to mention that he is a Data Base Administrator, a software programmer in other words. There is NO way I could ever keep him from finding out everything I post if he really wanted to find it. Even if I posted under another name, and deleted the internet history, he could check the history on the pc. He knows all the tricks...

I think that he does check the board from work every now and again, but I don't think that he would go out of his way to do all that just to see what I posted. But it's possible.

Oh well, I'll just be happy that he got some laundry done last night and appeared to be in a better mood this morning.

Maybe you can tell him that this is your area, you need it to vent and talk to friends about kids, money ect. and you would appreciate him leaving this board to you and giving you some privacy.
My Dh has just figured out the internet and he has seen me on the board soemtimes, but i dont tlak to him about it and I consider this board all mine and nothing to do with him.

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Right, if you could express it to him without backlash then I'm sure you would. Maybe he's seen the error of his ways and is trying to correct them. Now would be a good time to try to get the door of communication open, even if you have to pry it open. It's important even if a fight comes about that the two of you fight for the good of the realtionship and not just cause more hard feelings.

My dh will listen and knows I gripe now and then about annoying crap he does. I try to remind myself though that he is interested in my happiness but we all have our own personal interest that prevent us from seeing the other's point sometimes. I also try to streamline my thoughts so I can argue with purpose.

The spying may be more of a way for him to learn you're real feelings b/c you may hide them from him for the sake of peace in the home. I don't know you and your relationship this is a maybe statement. Either way problems need to come to a head so you can pop them. Sorry about the big pimple visual but you KWIM, right?

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My dh needs me to get him onto ebay and search for him, etc. So annoying but I know he probably would look at my posts too and then bring it back in my face. Men are a**holes

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Yeah, my DH reads mine as well, I think he will find something really juicy or maybe he thinks he will catch me doing something with someone I shouldn't be...know what I mean?

Must be rough being that insecure....

I can kinda understand your DH point of view...if my hubby was posting about our marital problems on a message board instead of talking to me about it, I would be really hurt. Maybe you should confinde in your husband??

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I've been boo'ed!!

Kimmy, he might even have a key logger on your computer and isn't reading your posts but is reading everything you type....:angry: My dh is a computer guy too and I am sure he has all that on our computer...

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same here. *He knows of the site and often teases me about it. *However, I don't think it would ever even occur to him to pull and read my posts. *He knows how to go to his fishing sites and that's about it. *he isn't very computer savy and I think he just wouldn't even think to do something like that. Then again he is very secure in our relationship.

I'm sorry your husband won't respect your privacy. *This is a place we come to so that we can vent, whine, share happy & sad things and things that seem like we can't talk to anyone else about. *I hope he realizes it's better for you to come here, where we don't know your dh, then to go to your friends and family and complain about him and have them think or look at him differently the next time they see him. *He should be happy you are complaining to "strangers" so to speak. *KWIM!

hugs... and hey, be happy he is helping and not in a negative or sarcastic tone! *