I think, myabe call her and tell her the truth, say you are not calling for our brother, but you are calling as an ex-SIL who misses her neices and nephews and would love to be a part of their life. You want to see them and want them to know you. You miss the realtionship you had before. Maybe she got pissed at you when you took the kids to see their father, just tell her I will abide by your wishes and not take them if you dont want me to.
Just be honest, either in a letter or by phone and investigate the rights for the grandparents. but if you had a good relationship before chances are it might happen again.
Good Luck.

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In Georgia, grandparents have NO rights. As far as your situation. I would see if the law is on your parents side. I know what it's like not to see my nephew. now my mom has foster custody of him. We are so scared that as soon as him mom gets him (maybe Aug) we won't see him again. I pray for you and your parents. Good Luck

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Actually in Georgia they do, it is termed as third party, it includes Grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.

If you are concerned about your nephew start looking into it now and find out what your rights are, as far as visitation, if his mother gets him back. As an aunt you will prob. have to go through a lawyer.

Sorry to hi-jack.

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Thought this might help....EVERY state has some type of Grandparents rights in place, but each stte differs as to the content of whay it entails...just find your state and do your research....
Parents Rights

The site is called parents rights, but if you scroll down you'll see the box for Grandparents rights and each states link...
Hope this helps, at least get the facts incase she says No....

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It's just easier for her to have her "new life" with no strings attached to the old. That's what she's trying to accomplish.

I honestly think that if the grandparents wish to have something to do with her children, it needs to come from them.

I would totally understand your desire to be a part of their life but I am not sure you would have the right to pursue it even if you wanted to (because of your brother giving up his rights). I would check on the grandparents rights and let them pursue it, that would be the most logical avenue.

Tough call to make. No pun intended. Maybe call her or have your Mom call, and explain the situation with your Dad's health, etc. Hopefully, she will be reasonable about it, just because your brother doesn't have anything to do with the kids, she doesn't have the right to cut everyone else out. I know, I didn't do that to my ex SIL, ex BIL, or ex MIL, they would always, be a part of my oldest Ds's life. I'm sorry, that you have to deal with this, maybe do some research on grandparents rights, and see what it says. I wish you the best of luck for this situation. Sending positive thoughts & prayers your way!!!

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