I guess I just need some where to cry and vent.

DS is totally driving me batty. I can say that we have created a monster with this one. He is spoiled and ungrateful. Yes, he is only 4, but I feel like I lose control when it comes to him. But I also feel like he is old enough to understand that this is unacceptable behavior in this house.

I'm tired. I'm worn out, burnt out, I'm done. I can't take it anymore. I feel like no one cares. This house is in constant disarray, and no one but me cares. I work 8 hours every day, I get up at 4:30 am to go in, I go to bed at 8pm. I never get a good night sleep because ds refused to sleep in his own room. I could fight with him for 3 hours over it, or I can just let him sleep in my bed and go to bed myself. Dh is upset with me over it as well, but I don't see HIM moving the boy into his room or fighting with him about it.

This is the first time in a month I've had 2 days off in a row, and it hasn't even been a day off yet. When I came home from work yesterday, the house was already a mess, I was too tired and I didn't feel well to deal with it. A sink full of dishes, toys in the living room, dried cereal/oatmeal on the tables, dirty clothes and shoes everywhere. My bed not made even when I repeatedly ask dh to make it in the am. Kid's didn't even have school yesterday due to snow, so it's not like he was rushing to get them on the bus. I did finnally get up around 5, make the kids some mac and cheese, wash dishes and went back to bed. So this am, I'm completly overwhelmed and I don't even want to start cleaning.

I did manage to clean up the living room, only to have ds take out his toys again in the living room. When I told him to pick them up, he said NO. I told him I would throw them out, he said "do it, I don't want them" so several of his train tracks ended up in the trash. Thats not even the kicker. The kicker is he took marshmallow fluff and put it all over his geotrax AND my living room rug. I got so mad, I put him in his room and locked myself in the bathroom to clean the geotrax. Then I started crying and I couldn't stop. I'm still crying, I'm so fed up. I need a break and I just never get one.

I ended up putting him in his room and I took everything out. There are NO toys left in there, I put everything in the basement. I'm so tired and fed up, I can't deal with him anymore. Seriously, I need someone to take him for a week cuz I need a break from him. As I was crying, I could hear him yelling from his room "Stop it!" I can't call dh, he can't come home in the middle of the day, I can't call MIL, she'll just have a lecture for me, I just can't do anything anymore.

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I'm so sorry that you are having a rough time.
Kids can be SUCH a challenge sometimes.....ok, actually all of the time. Just know that I am sure that your DS is just going through a time where he wants to test EVERY limit that he has. My DS and DD do this often. Try to stay as calm as possible. Maybe ask DH to take the kids out to play in the snow for a bit and you go take a bath..read a book, something relaxing.
As far as the house goes..... When I have toy trails all over my house I get the kids together and have them do a "Toy roundup", they seem to better with this task because I'm not telling them to "clean" up their toys...It doesn't work every time, but it does work most of the time.
Good luck and I hope everything will ease up soon!

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Boo to you from our crew!

i'm so sorry you are having such a bad time!!

Try to be positive, I know that is bad advice right now...

remember to smile!! it makes life "seem" better!

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I'm sorry your going through this.....have you tried the "love and logic" way with your son.
also have you tried a way to get him to sleep in his bed alone....we had this trouble and we put a certain amount of change in a jar in his room and a empty jar in our room (it was enought to get a happy meal) anyway. If he got up during the night or didn't want to sleep in his bed he had to give me a quarter for every time. At the end of the week what ever was left over he got to keep...there was some weeks there wasn't anything....it took several tries but finally it started to work. You could also do something like that with the toys.....Mines 11 and we still battle over the picking up the toys.....yet he knows that if he doesn't do it....he doesn't get "movie night" with the rest of us. Again these are just some ideas to maybe help you think of ways to connect with your son.

as far as your house goes.....sorry hubby isn't helping....do what you can a then don't worry about. I know that is hard not to do. I think I would be tempted to bring someone in to do some cleanning for you. You could try and make a list of what you would like to have done while your at work...

My ds is four too...and he's uber bratty.
I did the same thing as you - took all of his toys out and locked them up in the garage.
I did this because he's spoiled and he threw his BIG Superman against the wall and made a hole in it. I was soooo ticked off, it was ridiculous. Unfortunately, us mothers seem to hold on to anger and irritation longer than they do. It's crazy. What works for me really good is having him on a "color system". If he gets his card pulled to yellow, he's warned. Blue is time out. Green, at the end of the week will earn him a trip to the dollar store. I haven't any family here, all of them are in Texas.
So it's little ol' me against this four year old monster.
Good luck - I too know how you feel

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I'm sorry. That DOES sound like a stressful day. I think many of us have had days when we think "I can't deal with this child anymore!" and just seem overwhelmed. Hopefully it'll pass soon. Maybe when dh gets home, lock yourself in the bathroom and soack in a tub with a good book. Hope tomorrow's better.

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Thanks for some of the advice, I'm going to try some with him later. And your right, I'm still upset as I'm still cleaning FLUFF off my pants! At least most of it came off my carpet.

It didn't help that I had migraine all morning. I took some of my meds and its finnally going away. I bet AF will be arriving soon. I always get ultra stressed, b*tchy, and major headaches.

He is still in his room, I'm not sure when I'll let him out. I am calmer now, but I still have lots of cleaning to do and I don't have the patience for him right now.

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Meghan8.Samantha7,Cameron4

I hope your day gets better. I completely understand where you are coming from, just know that you are not alone with your frustrations. I know that doesn't help get the house clean, or the 4 year old to behave (must be something in the air because my dd has been a pistol as well), but just know it does get better.

What is it about the age of 4 that makes you start wondering about the child that you are raising!? Because I've had a few questions about my 4 year old as well!

But seriously, I'm sorry you're going through this hectic time right now. I know we all hit our limits now and then and it's tough. I wish I could offer you some outstanding words of advice that would actually help you.

Just sending you good thoughts and warm wishes for a much better day tomorrow!!!

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