I have a friend of 20 years, who I have avoided her calls now for over a week.

Well today she called me at work and now i know why I have not answered her calls at home. She is worry about what is going to happen 3 years from now when her son goes off to college. She is worry that he won't find an appartment, and good room mates.

Everything in her life is built around her worrying about "what might happen".

I just got to thinking when we hung up, how in the world can you worry and spend all of your time and engery, worrying about something that might not ever happen.

I guess because of everything i have went thru in my life, that i take a day at a time, and I try to deal with my problems as they come up.

How many of you, have spent sleepless nights and days, focusing on problems that might happen, and what-if's, that never happen.

In the past I worried alot, I would have panic attacks. Then I read somewhere to write down all of your worries, and come back to them at the end of the week, month, whatever. The point was to show you that around 99% of the things we worry about never happen. Since then I have started handling things one day at a time.

I cannot tell a lie. I have spent a lot of time worrying about what ifs, and still do. My dd is going to college next year, and I've been worrying about it for quite some time. That's not to say that I let the worries dominate my life or depress me, but I do occasionally have the what ifs. I just assumed everyone did.

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The are times when I imagine "what if" and ponder on "what could've" and lament the "what should've"...Then I look around the house and realize that I have a "to do" list.

No matter how much I try not to think of the what ifs, I do at times. I don't regret things I have done, not really even things I haven't. I am happy with who I am and those things made me that way. But when it comes to my kids I do worry. Things like, if I let them do this, what if. Or if I let them go there, what if. I just worry about my babies.

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Jenifer
Proud wife to one amazing man
Proud mom to four awesome kids

April showers bring May flowers
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

My sister Bev is a major worrier like that, altho she's working on it as of late. One time I told DH that I just wish she could see the glass as half full instead of half empty. He said that, to my sister, the problem was that it's glass, and it might break.

I have had things I've worried about, but I don't worry as much as some people do. It helps me to pray about the situation. The situation may or may not change, but my attitude will eventually. I like that old saying about "don't borrow troubles."