What would you do in this situation??? - Page 2

LJGZsmom · 03-18-2008, 02:37 PM

sorry duplicate post

LJGZsmom · 03-18-2008, 02:38 PM

I would wake them. Even if it is a family member he or I are not close to he would want me to wake him and I would want him to wake me. His sister (or whoever called) may need the comfort of him and he may have questions to ask.

Claire · 03-18-2008, 02:39 PM

I agree with Stacey. No matter how close/not close I was to an aunt and uncle, I would be calling my brother in the middle of the night to talk to him and, hopefully, get comfort from him as his sister.

I would have called about something like that.

stacia · 03-18-2008, 08:16 PM

If they were close family yes, I'd make calls and want to be called no matter the time. I imagine your SIL was shocked and wanted to talk to her brother, she probably wasn't even thinking of the time.

stay@homemom · 03-18-2008, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by 3boys2anglz

I personally would be upset if one of my siblings waited until morning to call me with news like that. I have a really close knit family even though we may not see each other or talk all the time and I would hate not being able to be there for each other. I have never cared about losing sleep and my loved ones and friends know that they can call me at any time if they need me.

Everyone is different but I do think in this case you did the right thing. I think my DH and his sister would be livid if I said "Can't this wait until morning?" It's not my place to tell her that. Now, if she had called to invite him to dinner or tell him his favorite team won, that's completely different.

It's hard enough to hear that news but for me, I know that I would be even more upset if I felt like I could have been there for my family sooner had someone called me.

momof5boys · 03-18-2008, 11:31 PM

OH those late calls are rarely good news. But my family would make them. Dh's family would wait until morning. I guess everyone handles these situations differently. I had a situation where I made a phone call while I was in complete shock and later found out that for several hours they thought I meant he left town when I said he was gone. Boy did I feel horrible. But I guess you never know how your going to react to a situation.

Sorry for your loss.

Jodie · 03-19-2008, 12:21 AM

For an Aunt or Uncle i would wait til morning. If it was a parent, grandparent or sibling i would call right when i found out no matter what time.

Once many years ago my father and brother in law were on a camping trip. My mil calls dh very early in the morning crying...we had thought something had happened to dad or brother.....after she calmed down she told dh that my brother in laws friend had died in a car accident. I was like why call us about a friend of the brothers. Then they drove all the way up to the camp site to tell him the next day. Personally i thought it could have waited til they came home.

I guess mil just needed to talk to someone since she new the guy and it hit too close to home.

Mommaholly · 03-19-2008, 06:49 AM

Death, although it is imminent, is still a horrible thing. It always comes as a shock and it's always a sad thing even if you weren't close to the people that died. I can read the news and see about people getting killed by car accidents, murder, fires, or run over and feel bad for their families so in a situation that involves death I can understand the late night phone call. As long as their wasn't a death everynight and my phone was ringing all the time, I can overlook someone calling me to tell me the bad news.

It appears you have overlooked it, it just upset you that it couldn't wait but how did your DH feel about it? Was he upset that he lost sleep over a family member he wasn't real close to or did he feel it necessary to comfort his sister and move on? I feel a few hours of lost sleep isn't that bad for the situation concerned.