There were about 10-25 people there, including children. There was alcohol involved since most people there are social/party drinkers. I tried to have fun but at the end of the party, I felt left out. I knew most of the people at the party, few of the friends and sister I have known for over 20yrs. even though we have drifted apart for a long period of time and recently started hanging out with them again.

I've tried talking to people at the party but a lot of the time I felt like a wallflower since I didn't want to annoy people by asking too many questions. I try to get to know others and not ask questions that may be too personal but rarely, others don't initate conversation with me and get to know me better. I don't know what it is but it's like they won't hardly talk to me unless I start a conversation even if it's short.

I stink at conversations or throwing my opinion in a conversation that is already going in a group of people. It doesn't help that I can't hear well unless the person is talking directly at me especially in noisy surroundings like at a party. It just stresses me out and makes me anxious when I feel left out because others don't ask me anything or include me in a conversation when I'm around a group of people.

I consider myself a simple person and don't do much that involves money since I'm being frugal because I hate having debt. I also try not to gossip or complain/vent about anything. I'm not one of those people who like to talk about problems/issues that are going on in my life to people I know since I don't want to be one of those friends that is emotionally draining to others.

To me -- that is about the exact size of a party that I hate. Too many people for small chit chat and yet not enough people to find probably the right person or two to enjoy talking with. I went to a party of that size about a month ago and left feeling about the same way you did. Mine just didn't go that long.

Sorry you didn't have a good time.

Sorry you didn't have a good time, but I would have hung around the kids.

Kids are accepting of just about anybody and a lot more fun because they interact and will talk to anybody without putting on a front and being phoney!

CCG, what makes you so sure you're going to annoy people by asking too many questions? One sure fire way to get a conversation going is by asking a person something about themself! It doesn't have to be intrusive, it can be anything...work, home, children, etc. But, when you ask, it's also got to be genuine, not like you're conducting an interview. Also, open-ended questions help keep a conversation going. Instead of asking, "So, do you like your job at XYZ?" (which only leads to a basic yes or no answer), you can try asking something like, "So, what are your favorite parts about working at XYZ?" From there, you'll get a more detailed answer, from which, you can surely ask more questions.

This is just to help you get a conversation going. Of course, it should be two-way. Feel free to then interject your own thoughts or feelings on the subject. This way, you're showing the person you're interested in what they have to say and learn more about each other.

Why was there alcohol and children together?

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There's nothing wrong with drinking in front of children if it's consumed responsibly while they're awake. They all went to someone else's house around 9pm so the kids didn't see anyone getting drunk.