hi

this might be too much tmi. Dh had hand surger this week and i told him he should go ahead and do the big "V" while he has the week off (dh rarely takes time off from his job really cant afford it) and he really does not want to get it done.

Normally i can sway him and tell him what to do (i know controlling but that is another topic lol) but this time it is a definte no.

We have 2 kids and are definly done due to money and just plain sanity. Not to mention that dh will be 43 this summer and i am 37 and we have a 10 and 3 year old.

I am taking a low dose birth control. I dont want to do an iud though i know the postives of it..i dont even like using a tampon so that is not for me...

We have gone many months without anything (sex) and i think we are both used to living w/out it . but that is making us more like roomates than man and wife.

I feel like if i dont take this step unless i get my tubes tied which i dont want to have surgery just for that then we will live like roomates.

I am defily afraid of getting pregnant and do not trust the condoms alone. Like i said the iud is not the option for me dh wont get the v. And i dont want to one day be 55 or 60 finally thru menapouse and just start having sex w/out worry and wasted all these years.

Why are you unhappy with the pill, is my first question, and why aren't you having sex is my second? You have really reliable birth control now, so that's obviously not the reason why you're not having sex. I'd be more worried about where the lovin' went than whether he gets a V is you're doing fine on the pill.

If you're NOT doing fine on the pill, I would reconsider the IUD. The IUD was absolutely definately not for me either. I'd be petrified of having it inserted/removed. Well, after just having had a saline ultrasound & then a D&C, now I realize that while a little uncomfortable, I probably would have done just fine w/ an IUD & I could have had it for years & saved all that $ & bother of being on the pill.

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i just started the pill a few days ago for the first time in like 10 years ...

I guess i am just worried about the risk of breast cancer on the pill...my mind keeps going to john edwards wife who is dying from breast cancer.

Though i know mine is low dose i am not in my 20's anymore. Though my ob/gyn assures me that now they use it all the way to menapouse.

The lovin can begin (sorry for being so graphic) on sunday...the 7 days of being on it would have passed and we are good to go lol.

You are right for going off the pill, if you have been taking it for a long time. I'm 45 and my Dr. wanted me off, and I've been on the lo dose one, also. A lot of people really like (well...I don't know about really like, as I'm sure they'd prefer nothing) the Mirena IUD. Why is it we can be on hormones for such a large part of our lives, birth babies, and yet the men won't do the thing that allows them to get what they live for? Because they see other options; having us carry the responsibility.

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I started taking the pill when i was 18 and then came off like around 25 years old.

So now just starting back on it at 37.

I am glad there was the break in between

I'm 44 & I've been on the pill since I was 19. I've talked to my doctor every year for the last 5 years about going off it but it always turns out to be the best option to stay on. It's low dose, he indicates it's very safe (I'm a non-smoker) and no history of breast cancer in the family at all. I also have PCOS so the pill helps with that.

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Thanks so much calimari that makes me feel so much better!!!!

I had the Mirena and LOVED it, I was terrified of it at first. I thought it would hurt, but it was only slightly uncomfortable when it was removed, I think I had one cramp when it was inserted. It made my periods disappear after about three months. It was awesome! I hope you get this worked out soon!

In addition to the pill, maybe you should try fertility charting. You can keep track of when you're fertile so you know when NOT to get physical. I've read a lot about women who use it for that; it isn't just for trying to get pregnant.

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