My kids have soccer games this morning and I let my dh take them without me. I have never missed any of their sporting games, but I feel terribly guilty. What if they do something outstanding and I am not there to see it? The reason I did not go is that I have been up most of the night with a terrible headache and I can not shake it. I think it is due to allergies, so I didn't want to sit outside for 3 hours, but I feel so bad about not being there. My dd was on the verge of tears because I was not going.

Granted, this is the first game my dh has been to this season and he never felt guilty over missing one.

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Because you're a mom....a great one!...and that's what we do! Don't feel guilty, I think they would have felt worse if they looked up and saw you sitting there with your head in your hands and not showing any excitement, than if they look up and there is Dad (for the first time on the sidelines) cheering his butt off (Can Tracy cheer his butt off ?) This is the first one you missed, don't feel guilty, it will prob be the only one you miss, when they come home they will tell you all about it and not feel bad you weren't there.
If it makes you feel any better, the first time I let Rob take Kels to dance was the week she got Dancer of the Week, and we were all okay...Kels wasn't even upset anymore I didn't go...I on the other hand....I'm kidding! Smile! Try and get rid of your headache so you can do something fun with them later!

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Tracy, cheer???? No, he will sit there like a lump on a log!! Plus, the poor little baby (can you hear the sarcasm?) has a cold!! So he will have to play the super hero for the rest of the day--whatever feeds his ego!?!?

Shell, believe it or not, our 13th anniversary is this month!

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You feel guilty because as moms we feel like we need to be supermoms 24/7 (believe me, I am completely in touch with mommy guilt these days ) But do not beat yourself up for this. You've had no sleep because of a headache caused by allergies. You would not have been any fun at the game. You didn't skip the game so you could sit at home alone, watching videos, drinking wine and eating chocolate (because if that's what you were doing, you should have called me! :D ). You skipped because your body needs a little recoup time. Have you taken anything? Are you feeling any better? I would try and rest as much as you can before everyone gets home, because you know you won't get to rest then. I hope you feel better and please, please, please -- stop feeling guilty.

And why is it the things that pull our guilt strings most as mom have absolutely no affect on dads? What is that all about?

Don't feel quilty. Today my dad called and said he was going to watch ds at gymnastics and would did I want him to just pick him up and take him and I said yes. Granted this is a little different than a game, it's just 4 year old gymnastics, but I felt guilty, but I really wanted to get my kitchen clean and I did. the guilt has kind of gone away as I admire my clean kitchen (which didn't get messed since dh was gone all day and night and ds and I ate at my parents and then played upstairs all night and dd is too little to mess it up.)

I agree with Rileys mom and hope you are feeling better. I'm surprised dh didn't stay in bed with a cold - mine does, even if I'm dragging my knuckles while ill. You know you're a good mom, and so does your child, which is why the disappointment - it's out of the norm. This may be a good opportunity to teach empathy. If mommy's too sick for your game, you know I'm very, very sick because I wouldn't miss it for the world if I had the choice. But I knew daddy would take good care of you and he loves you just as much. Mommy needed to rest so she could get better and help get things back to normal. She needs to understand, and helping her reflect on how she felt when she was sick would help... Your guilt is normal for us moms because our umbilical cords are still attached to them. I feel guilty if I even have a latte on my own at the bookstore while dh is with the kids, or I'm working on the computer while he is, as he puts it, on baby duty. Why is it baby duty for him, but parenting for us? My doctor tells me I need to just let him take over because it won't hurt the kids. Well, if baby gets a rash from not having a diaper change, that does hurt, as does an empty tummy - he tried to put her down for a nap because she was crying from hunger. He was so proud of himself. Yet when I asked if he fed her lunch, I swear his guilt was fleeting. Me, I would have felt so bad forever. Ugh!

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Julie-
Your kids will understand eventually, if they do not now.
Your kids deserve a Mom who is at her best and sometimes we need to take time to ourselves to recharge- so to speak.
Better to miss one game and nurse yourself back to health-
I too feel incredibly guilty when I miss games and my kids are in high school. But i'm working to make sure they have clothes,food

Sorry you had the headache- wish there were a miracle drug or treatment
Great Big Hugs