16 Children and Moving in (Duggar Family) - Page 2

mom23kj · 07-21-2006, 07:37 AM

I also felt sorry for the kids. Not only do the older ones not get a chance to be kids, the younger ones loose that bond with mom when the next comes. All seem cheated to me. The whole with having a big family comes big responsability thing is true, but the older kids who bear that responsability aren't the ones who asked for a big family. I'm not trying to start anything, but so much get lost with such a large family. It's one thing to have 5, 6 or even 7 kids, but 16 and not wanting to stop there is a bit on the loony side. JMHO

adkii · 07-21-2006, 08:08 AM

I saw the show when they moved in. Very beautiful house! But I was wondering if the wife has any health problems. Sometimes after so many the uterus gets stretched out and can't hold a baby.

momof2boys · 07-21-2006, 08:31 AM

I agree with you guys it does seem a bit loony to want 16 kids, and a bit unfair to them all. I imagine they are "trained" to like it, but would like to hear about them over the next 20 yrs to see how they turned out.

Leighann

CoffeeGirl · 07-21-2006, 04:59 PM

I'd like to see this, I have heard of this family, but never caught the show. I love kids, but wow! I cannot imagine trying to raise that many! I feel streched in so many different directions as it is with 2 and one on the way! But then, I do not homeschool, and school stuff always pops up around here.

I just wonder how long the older ones got to be kids and the younger ones babies? I know a friend has kids 10 mos. apart, then another a year after, so the first was not even a toddler when her little sis came along, and that one barely a toddler when the brother came along! It can happen in families of any size, my own DH is 9 years older than his little bro and basically raised him when they were little.

cj's mom · 07-21-2006, 05:31 PM

I agree I have had a tough time with the kids being handed off. I did now what to offend by posting it. I think it is great that financially they can do this and that they have not problems. I worry about what happens when the kids get older and go out into the community. They have been home schooled, no tv no radio - granted this is great for family time. i also think it is great that they are competely debt free. They do not buy unless they have the cash - including that beautiful new house. holy cow I can only dream of that day.

i would like to see the moving in show as well. man I would just be happy to be pregnant with a 2nd child - they may not be done yet either - more kids could come.

Happymom · 07-21-2006, 05:42 PM

I agree with the others who worry about the kids. I have 7 and I try not to make my dd watch the little ones very often. She is also compensated when she does (she is currently working toward an IPod). I strongley feel that my dh and I chose to have these children so it is our responsibility to raise them . My dd had no choice in the matter.

I have to say that I have not seen the show and I do admire people who can do this, though!

Ev_Cal_n_Syds_Mommy · 07-22-2006, 12:29 AM

I saw this the first airing! Back in April or so maybe, not sure!

It is really impressing! I couldn't do it, I can barely handle my 3!!!

bjn75 · 07-22-2006, 08:51 PM

this should air again - its been on several times over the last few months.

the other day i saw the one with them going on vacation .
there are now 3 shows of them incase anyone is interested

07-25-2006, 06:07 PM

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Quote[/b] (mhender @ July 20 2006,16:02)]I saw this too - very interesting. They must have the patience of saints to live in that little house for how many years while they were building the dream house? On a more controversial note - I was a little disturbed that once a child looses the "baby" spot in the family, they are basically turned over to an older child to raise. Don't you feel a little sorry for those older kids that they are being robbed of their childhood? I know - a big family comes with responsibilities. I have a sister that is ten years younger and I always felt it was my job to take care of her - I never minded that because my parents were always gracious and thankful that I was there to help and they told me that. I just wonder with all of the home-building and childcare, how much education do these children actually get? I'm not trying to start something - I'm just wondering....

(on another note, it's a little sad that I don't feel comfortable making a questionable comment on here - it just seems that so many people have been "attacked" lately - that's not what I'm looking for...)

No attacking here. I completely agree with you. I also beg to differ on the family being Baptists. It was clearly stated in one of the shows that they hold their own church services. My personal opinion is the family is very cult-like. They dress weird, the girls are have very long out of style hair cuts, the mom's hair cut went out in the early 80's. I am impressed with the house but still, it only has 3 bedrooms. The kids sleep in Dormitory style rooms. Now why in the world would you want or need Dormitory style rooms in a 7000 sq foot house? They can say all they want about the kids wanting to share, but what teen in their right mind wants to share a bedroom with a toddler. The parents(leaning more towards the dad) are controlling and that is obvious from the moment you see them. Hope I don't offend anyone but this family is just freakish and it has nothing to do with having an enormous family.

NottheMomma · 07-25-2006, 06:26 PM

I come from a family of 13. Everyone thought we dressed wierd, and had out of style haircuts too. I think I was freakish... well maybe... I don't know. I was too busy with school work and farm chores to really give it much thought. I know that I never (god forbid) had my own room. We went to church in our basement.... and I am pretty sure it was not a cult. When I was a teenager it would have felt weird NOT to have a younger brother or sister there. In todays enlightened and tolerant world I amazed that because I come from a large family I am now a freak. On a side note for those that think that large number of kids means less childhood or less parental attention... you couldn't be further from the truth. When I scraped my knee 15 people dropped what they were doing and came running. That is attention!