I went thru the same thing as u but my ex was not in the military I got a lawyer and ended up in debt and lost my kids anyway I then wised up and did not let him bully me I went to court and showed them I was the better parent for my kids and got them back without a lawyer. I spoke up 4 me and my children u dont need to feel sorry 4 urself. Go to a shelter where they will help u with legal advise and will keep u and ur children protected. Dont think there is no help just do it call the police and get out. I went and did things the wrong way, I thought he wouldn't try to keep me away from my kids but as soon as he got the chance he did. I never went to the police, I had no money or friends or a car. I got up and left to my sister's house and he got a hold of my 2 oldest and wouldnt let them go I did take my newborn but the court still gave him custody. Dont let this happen to u, fortunately I got my kids back but it took three years. They were mentally abused and needed counseling he told them I didnt love them and didnt want them. Men try to think they are so tuff but they really are not. Show ur kids and urself that u dont need him and u can do for urself and ur children. Even if u r struggling, u hold ur head up high and never let him see u sweat. Dont show any fear when u c him in court, just smile or dont even look his way. Girl I will pray 4 u and I know u will do ur best for ur family. Dont give up GOD will help u and ur kids.ray:

pack up the kids, call the police, and leave. go to a shelter, and file for a protection order. these things have to be documented. you are being abused. it will only get worse.