I am really scared about doing this but would like some advice...I have been married for less than a year and my husband is crazy he's very angry all the time throws things and scares me and my kids...My kids are not his but I am pregnant and whenever I try to leave he threatens to take the baby...He is in the army and I am a SAHM and haven't had a job in years and right now am on bedrest...I do not have ANY money no driver's license due to my husband not letting me...I am thousands of miles from my home state and my husband refuses to take me anywhere besides the store so I can meet other people so I have NO friends...I am soooo alone and the only support I have is thousands of miles away which is my parents...I have contacted family very guiltily(sp?) but I asked anyone to help me either drive across country to get me or send me money or something and no one can...My husband has taken my bank card so I can't even use that...I am lost and don't know what to do...I want to file for a divorce then get out of dodge so I don't have to see the rage but am scared that he is going to take my unborn baby away like he says and that he is going to do what he can to make my life miserable...Please any advie would be awesome...I need to know of how I can go about getting a lawyer without money or maybe who might help pay cuz he is going to go at this full force jag lawyers and all...Thank you so much

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Erika Army wife to Owen SAHM to Abigail and Alicea and baby #3 due 4-19-06

Can you not call "home" for help?

I would call family advocacy on the base and see if they can give you someone to talk to!

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Id file for military divorce then go STRAIGHT to his seargant and apply for cs. The military does NOT jack with this. This is what dh's aunt did and her cs went through higher and quicker than civillian court!

Edited to say: As people know we are going through a court battle and what not and around here IF you leave with the kids you are granted temp custody then what he is doing is ABUSE. Not leaving you with keys or phone privileges or not allowing contact with the outside world.

I don't have any advice, I just wanted to give you a big HUG!! I wished I could help you, you sound so sad. I hope you aren't having too much stress w/ the baby & all. Take it easy!!! Hope the ladies on here can give you the advice your looking for!!

Contact your ombudsman or wives club president. She will be able to help you. An ombudsman is trained to deal with every situation imaginable. When you are in the military and far away from home the military is your family. They are on your side!

Hi yes I have contacted home but NO ONE is able to help...I have contacted the military but the men that my husband works for stands by him there was a captain that lied and said he knew my husband VERY well but he didn't know him at all just so my husband wouldn't get in trouble...I have contacted the FRG leader or family readiness group leader and she just talks to his captain well then the captain gets on my butt because they believe him over me...Soldiers are suppose to stick up for their battle buddies but they shouldn't lie so yeah NO ONE on post is willing to help either...I have contacted the family advocacy program as well but they just talk to the same people and it just keeps coming down on me...My husband LOVES having this power and uses it every chance he can...I am at a loss and have no clue what to do...Thanks for the advice though...

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Erika Army wife to Owen SAHM to Abigail and Alicea and baby #3 due 4-19-06

Call your local shelter - sojourners, etc. Call the police and ask them what shelters are in your area. They should be able to help you make a plan. Get out now, as quickly as you can, but you are doing it wisely - you are making plans first. We have Chrysalis and Sojourners here, but I don't know the ones in your area. The police will.

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Call the cops if the military won't help you. You are a prisoner in your own home and that is illegal. They can get you to a woman's shelter. This sounds worse than your other post. Counseling will not fix this. You need to get out now. Don't look back. It's only a matter of time before he hurts you or your kids.

It's a power trip for him to threaten to take your unborn child. He does not have a leg to stand on. It's only another way to control you.

If the police won't help you call the nearest woman's shelter you have. We have several that keep women and families like you safe.

Being a military wife I need alittle more information. What post are you on? and what unit? If you can give me that I maybe able to get you some numbers.

I'm just wondering if you are ok? I missed this post but after reading it, I'm worried about you! How are things going? Can you give us an update?

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