Dealing With Deployments/TDYs

kotasmomma03 · **Dealing With Deployments/TDYs**

What do some of you other military wives do to cope with deployments and TDYs?

I have mainly been trying to keep busy and active which is good and bad. Good because the time passes quickly but bad because I wear myself out very easily being the only one responsible for the house/cars/yard/dog and DS. Not to mention all the other things I'm involved in.

How supportive is your base/post during your DH's absense?

So far ours has been great. I just got a call today from DH's supervisor asking how I was doing. I know he made a point to do it because DH left exactly a week ago today.

I'd love to hear from some of you on this....

southern_belle_mommie · 01-12-2007, 04:25 AM

What do some of you other military wives do to cope with deployments and TDYs?
Ugh, I sit and cry for the first couple of days, and then I just try to make it through. I do it for the kids, I won't lie. If it were just me I would hide under the blankets and not come out until he came home. Dh is leaving on Wed to go back to Kuwait for a month and I have decided to take the boys to my moms house and we're going to stay there until he comes home. I could use a little help with the new baby and all. Not to mention I would feel safer, I was a nervous wreck last time. I will be SO glad when we move to the base! I also fool myself into thinking that he's at work, then that he's working late, and then that he's pulling 24 hour duty. After the first couple of days though I just go with the flow and try to make it the best I can. Then the "mommy instincts" kick in and I start doing what I have to, to keep my house and my family going until he gets home. Not to mention I stay on Mommy Savers so that I'm not comepletely alone.

How supportive is your base/post during your DH's absense?
Our base isn't really all that supportive, however, dh hasn't been on a long deployment with them yet, just these 1 month exercises in Kuwait that keep coming up. They did let him come home a week early when I was getting ready to have Ds, but then seemed a little irritated that he did come home even though it was COMPLETELY their idea. I am hoping as time goes on that things will "warm up" some here. We're at what they call a retirement base. Dh, an E-5, is the lowest ranking and youngest person (by 10+ yrs) in his unit. It's odd not having other "younger" soldiers with us this time. Last base, he was over about 30 others, and now it's totally different.

kotasmomma03 · 01-14-2007, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by southern_belle_mommie

I do it for the kids, I won't lie. If it were just me I would hide under the blankets and not come out until he came home.

You and me both sister! I was in denial the first week, now that DS is starting to really miss his daddy, it has finally set in and I've been having a hard time the last few days.

ajjazzy · 01-14-2007, 08:09 PM

Well ladies I feel for you. I have done first as a kid with my dad and now with my Dh.
I feel for both of you. I just made myself so busy I didn't really have time to think about anything. I found alot of friends it did help. Then i started working out. walking the track and small workout.
Well now my Dh is out after 22yrs in. retired we are learning each other now. He says all the time i didn't see how you did it.