I know that when I made the decision to get divorced, one of the first things I (we) did was make a pact that we were not going to put the children in the middle.

I am very fortunate that I have the best kids, they have adjusted to so many changes, and never faultered one bit. Their grades never suffered, they maintained their friendships. Their father and myself have always gone to their parent teacher conferences together. And we tell them (individually) that IT WAS NOT THEIR FAULT AND WE LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY!!

We have had teacher tell us that you would NEVER know that they had divorced parents.

Any other thoughts on this subject???

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Stacey

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man." ~ Euripides

My only thought is "good job" and I wish all parents could truly do that. I've never been divorced, so I can't speak from experience, but I know so many kids who have been hurt by fighting exs who each want the kids to take "their side". So I hope you & your ex can keep up the good work for the sake of your children.

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Your children are very fortunate! I also wanted to add that I love your quote!

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That is awesome the two of you were able to do that. My ex played with my 2nd Dh's head so much I could not win for losing. When he turned 12 he decided he wanted to live with him and I could not fight him anymore. It was a losing batle for me, as his Dad played head games with him since we divorced when he was 3.

You and your ex should be very proud of yourself.

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When I saw your post I thought you were going to say you were thinking about a divorce and i was like

Glade to hear you were speaking about the old divorce.

Oh goodness no...I hope I don't have to go through that again. Actually my dh is my night in shining armour, I am very fortunate.

No, this was a question that was posed to me, and I thought I would make a thread out of it.

Thank you all for your encouragement. It hasn't been easy.

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Stacey

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man." ~ Euripides