Living in "close quarters" with your ex??

Bucsnpats · **Living in "close quarters" with your ex??**

How do you deal with living in the same town or city with your ex husband?? What are the pros and cons?? Is this the best situation for the children??

I know some people think it is the best thing, having both parents involved. And others think it is just too confusing for the children to go back and forth all the time. What do you think??

Lou · 02-05-2007, 08:39 AM

I think it is best if both parents are close to the child. Even though I have no family here, I would not think of leaving this town till my DS is closer to 18 since his father and grandparents are here.

Of course, there are lots of things that are not so wonderful about having my ex here. I sometimes wonder about running into him when one of us is on a date (can you say awkward), or even just running into him out on the few occassions I go to the local bars.

It is definately better for my DS that both his parents live here in this town - but probably not better for me as a single woman.

stxmom · 02-05-2007, 09:52 AM

For us it was better when we moved away. My ex lived 3 blocks from us and couldn't take the time to ever see the kids. Now we live 12 hrs away, we no longer have to make excuses for him.

lovindj25 · 02-05-2007, 02:31 PM

i agree with Lou that when both parents are close, its best for the kid. I also think that it is hard/confusing for the child to go back and forth too...especially when they are younger. my sons father lives less than ten minutes away...he is with his father while i work and then when i get done working, i pick him up...i can see a strain on my son from trying to remember what he can and cant do at my house versus what he can and cant do at his fathers...it will get easier when he gets older....i hope.-worried-