What I am bitter about is that I thought someone would agree with me, and that is not the case. I am not bitter about him getting married again. I really don't care about that.

This whole thing has intrigued me and I am attempting to find out what the etiquette is for this type of situation.

My dh even thought it was wierd and uncalled for, for those to get mailed here.

So far, the only thing I can find is that only children older than 18 should get there own invites. Which they are not.

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I'm not divorced...so I have no idea what you're going thru...I meant you seemed bitter in general, not that he was getting married again.

You can certainly send invites to individual people, even children, and whomever was doing the invites wanted to do that. You can also invite children together, one invite, just put both their names on it or with the adult they'd be attending with...I guess I'm wondering, why does it really matter? You seem set on being mad about it and I'm sure there is nothing anyone else could say to make you not feel that way.

I don't think you'll find anywhere that invites shouldn't be mailed - the proper (formal) etiquette is to mail them, even if it is your next door neighbor that you see every day. And if you did find someplace that said that invites to a parents wedding should be hand delivered...then what? Point it out to your ex?

I would have been annoyed, too Bucsnpats. I dont know if I would say anything... just ignore it and be the bigger person, maybe.

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Well Bucsnpats, I have been divorced before, and it would bother me too. Like he is doing it as he wants to put it in your face kind of a thing. He should have asked his kids when they were over if they wanted a copy of the invitation, and give it to them then.

I think he or the fiance was kind of showing off. Hugs to you!!

I know you posted just for some support and to vent, I can TOTALLY relate. :-)

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Bucsnpats,

Are you sure he is the one that sent them out? Maybe a family friend did them. For both my sister's wedding invites, someone else sent them out. Or maybe, he feels inferior, because you got re-married and moved on before he did and he has to try to make himself feel better.

I can understand your frustration and needing to vent. That is one of the reasons this message board is here. Try to brush it off and don't let your ex know that it bothered you.

i would have to agree with miss liss, like he is just doing it to put it in your face and to show off.....vent honey vent....we are here to listen!!! you are happier now...it probably kills him that you are happier now than when you were with him.:love:

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My question is, when you're getting married, and your children aren't grown, do you MAIL an invitation? It seems that it would pretty much be a given that your children are invited and even part of the ceremony! Do you send invites to those who are part of the wedding? Hmmm. Are they part of the wedding? It does seem impersonal. However, there are those, like my SIL, who would complain not being mailed to because she would think others were too cheap to use a stamp. However, the fiancee could have been the one doing this and may have wondered about the etiquette. As Bucnspats says, she's checking on that etiquette part. I don't know the ex/fiancee situation, so I don't know if any snub was involved. But, unless there were hurt feelings with the children about him getting married again, I wonder why they aren't participating. Maybe that's another post.

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Yes they are part of the wedding. I think it is in my original post here, but maybe not.
My ds is the best man, and my dd is one of the bridesmaids.

In addition, they are under 18, and his children, you would think that it is a given that they will be there, invite or no invite. They see him on a regular basis. I don't think their feelings would have been hurt if they did not get an invite. They are too young to put that much thought into it. JMO

Thank you to those of you who understand where I am coming from. I do agree with those of you who said he is just rubbing it in my face.

And desertmom, you know that I appreciate your opinion, no matter what!!

In addition, I have posted in my blog, more on the divorce and what kind of a person he is...if you are interested.

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Well, all the more reason to let it go, if you dig up the proper etiquette on the subject and point it out to him, then he gets the last laugh because it annoyed YOU. So if that was his goal, it worked. I would just ignore it.

As far as being bitter about nobody agreeing with you.....I think we have all been there a time or two, TRUST ME!!