So, I go to my mailbox today. And what do I find. Two envelopes addressed to my two older children. One to ds and one to dd. What are they?? Invitations to my ex (their father's) upcoming wedding. Is that tacky or what?? Could he not hand them to the kids?? Plus they are in the wedding. Or could he not mail them to his own house??

When my dh and I got married almost two years ago now, the kids were in our wedding, but I did not mail them an invite, and handed one to my dd because I know she likes to keep those kinds of things. (She loves scrapbooking)

If I say anything to him, he will just think I am jealous, which I am not. I just think that is very very tacky and disrespectful. What do you guys think??

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I dont know maybe he just thought they would like getting them in the mail. Kids love getting mail. Do they see him on a regular basis?

They probably just mailed them out to everyone and he thought they would think it was fun getting it in the mail. I guess I don't think it's that tacky myself. If he was getting married first (before you) & married some woman he left you for...then I'd maybe say tacky. But since you're already remarried with a baby, he probably didn't think you'd care that he was getting married. I wouldn't read too much into it.

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Yes he sees them on a regular basis. He even has them this weekend. I understand they like getting mail. Then he could have mailed them to his own house.

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Mailing them to his own house seems a bit odd to me,that's probably why he mailed them to your house,maybe his fiance mailed it and not him? I don't see it as tacky at all.

Ok, I guess I am just crazy then. I guess I am reading too much into it. Nevermind.

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I don't think your crazy.I think we all have days here and there where we mis-interpret someone's actions or intentions. I know i certainly have! Maybe he just wanted to be certain they wouldn't leave their invitations behind if he handed them to the kids in person? I know sometimes i am guilty of mailing something to my next door neighbor only because i'm afraid i will misplace it if i leave it around my house too long.

Well...it's proper etiquette to mail them and to mail them individually. Each guest should get their own invite. So I don't think it's tacky (quite the opposite) or weird or anything but that's me.

Ok, I understand that guests get invites, blah blah blah, we aren't talking about a guest, we are talking about his children that are in the wedding. I guess it is just one of those, treat me like I treat you "things". I thought it would be tacky to mail in invite to my children to his house, so I didn't do it. I was just expecting the same respect in return. Apparently, my expectations are WRONG. I guess it is not really that big of a deal. I was just shocked when I saw them in the mail, and thought maybe someone would think the same thing I did. Again, I was WRONG.

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Hmmm...well you sound pretty bitter. Sorry, I had no idea. You asked for opinions and I answered. Sorry you're going thru a tough time.