How do your children deal with having different rules at Mom's house and at Dad's house?? Assuming there are different rules.

Or do you and your ex try to keep things pretty equal in both households, not to confuse the children??

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Stacey

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man." ~ Euripides

Well, no ex here, but my grandson does live every other week with us and with his dad and other grandparents. There he is the only child and he gets whatever he wants. We are so tired of fighting him on this. His dad is seeking full custody and we said great, take him!! I know that sounds mean, but I cannot deal with it anymore! So, this is his last week living with us! We will still visit him all the time, but I am excited because I actually get to be grandma instead of mom!

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~Happiness is a large family~

good post!!! i dont even have to ask what rules are at his house compared to mine...i can jsut see it when my son comes home. there was one incident where he was sticking his tongue out at me...well needless to say i dont like that....but when i told him to stop he says "well daddy laughs when i do it" I see how my sons fathers parents raised him and i know how my parents raised me...two totally different worlds.

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Jaime

"Live each day like its your last"

I have a step daughter who is at our house every other weekend. SHe was an only child at her moms for 8 years UNTIL 3 months ago. She's spoiled and has no rules at her moms house. She gets what she wants and does what she wants. When she comes to our house it's a pain because we have rules and 2 younger children that watching and learning from what she is doing. There's no working together with her mom but we are trying to teach how she is expected to behave when she is with us.

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Crystal
Mom to Paige & Faith

It is amazing how children will adjust to what they can or can't do depending on which house they are in. Even if it is Grandma's house. My biggest complaints aren't really that big at all. Mine just think they can eat 24/7 and not ask for "treats". I don't know how my ex keeps his house full of food?? It drives me crazy that they think they can eat a whole bag of chips or an entire box of cookies, and they look at me like I am the one that is insane, when I say "just a couple" or "just a handful".

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Stacey

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man." ~ Euripides

I am going to answer from the view of a child from a divorced family. I knew that at Dad's I could do just about whatever I wanted as long as I didn't back talk or disrespect him. This included smoking and drinking.

At Mom's which we also lived with Grandma that sort of behavior doesn't fly. Kids were to be seen and not heard, and no smoking or drinking you lived in christian fashion.
I don't believe it was ever predetermined between my parents a set of rules that both would apply. Which was good for me, as a kid! I knew not to tell Mom what went on at Dad's or I may not be able to do those things anymore.

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"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous