well as most of you know i'm just venturing into the role of single parenting.Kim thanks for this board.

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W...I want to say...it takes great courage to become a single parent. I admire you for taking that next step in your life. Most of all, I support u by being there if you need anything...K.

stop by and PM or send emails to me....k. don't be a stranger!!

always..
dabie

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"Mom of Seven...Darn Proud"

I'm a single parent, in the most part. Dh is a union labor worker for the highway. He is gone for long periods of time. He leaves at 10 am and could be back home as soon as 10 pm or a lot later if not for the night. So me and dd have the house and everything to ourselves. The only thing I hate is that I am at home, and not bringing home any money to help with bills. Dh understands, but tells me to get over it, he is providing for us so I can stay home with our daughter. Dh and I are not really married yet, but feel we are. Soon with in the next few weeks we plan on getting hitched. lol. But I understand and have a lot of respect for all you single parents out there. My hat is off to you all.

I am a newly single mom of a 28 month old awesome little girl. I left the marriage because I didnt want her growing up thinking it is ok to get hit and verbally and emotionally abused. Single parenting is ROUGH. I have lost 2 jobs already because I could not get a sitter at 7:30 in the morning when she came down sick. What do you do? I have no idea. I am floundering here. I have to work because he is leaving me about $40,000 in debt, on top of the household bills and my car payment, and no child support because, at least for now, he is trying to say she is not his child. She is but the court takes so much time to get anything settled. In the mean time I would just love to have someone else in the house to once in a while be the one to say "no", or to feed the pets or decide what to make for dinner, again, or wha to put into her preschool lunch box. Some days are just exhausting. I yearn for someone to just talk to that isnt into Dora or Nemo or teasing the cat.

what are you talking about dont be a stranger!You're gonna be the on ei call saying ummm Dabie where is this at or how far away is this!loland we're getting everyone together for dinner!Thank you for your kind words love you babe

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Woohoo...so cool...it's an date then!! When you & the kiddies are all settled in your new found home... where ever it is...phx. or glendale location. contact me..K.....take cares sweetie!!

always...
dabie

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My JSEVENS: JJ, Jaren, Jocelyn, Jamie, Jasmine, Jordan
"Mom of Seven...Darn Proud"

Well, I didn't realize this until recently in March that I have been a single mommy since my daughter was born.
Yes, I was engaged until March, but now the wedding is cancelled, we seperated and I broke up with him a week later.
It has been a crazy rollercoaster ride and so glad that I am not marrying him this weekend. Instead I am going out with my friends and we're going to have a blast and celebrate the fact of not marrying the creep.:D

Anyways I am really glad there is now a single parenting msg section. I am sure I will be on this site more that they have a single parent section.

The temp. agreement of the custody battle was finalized back in end of May. In the next few weeks, i will be caling up my attorney and the permanent agreement process will be starting in the next few weeks. I doubt it will not go through as permanent till late Sept or even Oct.

Also I in FT college student, FT mommy and I live at home with my dad for the time being. I will be getting my BS in Child Psy Spring 2007. I haven't decided if I am going to get my masters degree right away or not. It's a big decision and i have to talk to the career center and get more information.

Anyways I am trying to be as strong as I can as a single mommy. I am trying to look at life as one step at a time and it's okay to be single for now. I know someday I will hopefully meet Mr. Right, but I have to be patient and wait.

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My DH works the 3-11pm shift usually M-S and is only home Sundays. He is for the most part my live in babysitter with occasional "benefits". It has been this way going on 7 yrs. All Dr. apptments, school functions, sick kids (even when the 2 youngest are sick I stay home from work), meetings, etc are my responsiblity. I also cook the meals, do the laundry, clean, mow the lawn, car maintance, pay bills, balance the checkbook schedule taxes, and make all the financial decisions. Somedays I really wonder why he's there. I know in my head that I can't count on him to do anything extra and some days I honestly beleive it would be easier if he wasn't there making a mess & making dirtying laundry. Dh doesn't take care of me when I'm sick and if I get in a bind with scheduling I'm told that's my problem he has to work. So essentially I feel that I am a single parent to 4 kids. I really admire those women who are in reality a single parent. I do realize the strength and self motivation they must have.

I have been a single mom for the last two years, and the divorce and subsequent visitation will be here sooner than I would like to think.

We have been without a "documented" separation, so my husband has just visited whenever. Usually, he was here for a little while each day, some short visits, some longer. We still took family trips, too.

I am having a very hard time with the idea of splitting vacations, holidays, etc. Can somebody please explain to me how this works? How much flexibility is there in the "guidelines" that they give you?

Right now, I am just overwhelmed by a lot of things (some of you know the details, and thank you for the encouragement - it means a lot to me!). I look forward to coming here in the next few months both to give and receive support!

With regards to the splitting of vacations what I suggest you do is first see if you have any state law or state guidance on this?

Secondly sit down and think about the age group of your children and their school requriements in terms of homework and school holidays. (I have the boys living with me and they did get weekend homework in Secondary School, James was a total idiot and would send the boys back home late on Sunday with minimum or none of the homework done so I limited weekend access on that point)

If you ex lives near you then perhaps visitation can be more flexible, if it suits YOU as the main carer. James only lives across the city so that wasnt the problem

With regards to holidays particularly Christmas you will have to consider first how You feel Can you invite him for Chirstmas to the family home (I cant and wont), Will you be willing to share alternative Christmas (Again long history I wont and the children prefer our family Christmas arrangements, and in case you think Im mean to James trust me Im very easy going and accommodating most times but when I eventually turn, I dont turn back)

Easter Hols I hve no problem sharing or letting the boys go to him if they want, When they do though they usually want to come back before the time is up!)


there is no easy script for this so lets all try and help each other if we have any questions of maybe can learn from each others experience?

Anne