that you learned from your experiences and your next relationship will benefit from it?? Or will you be attracted to the same type of person again?? Or will you know the difference??

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

I have been remarried for the last 7 years to the kindest man on earth. He would never hit me, we have had disagreements and they have been settled by honest, open talking.

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Well, im not divorced, but i am not the happiest in my marriage. If i had to do it all over again, there are so many things i would look out for.
I would pick a man who enjoys being a father to his children, one that has his feet planted firmly on the ground,hopefully one that is set in his job/career.Dh's job jumping over the years has really worn me down and it's not good for the kids either. A more affectionate man, helpful around the house and easy going would be nice too. I would pick a man who has hobbies that he enjoys or atleast is active outdoors.This constant couch-riding-channel-surfing stuff with my dh is wearing thin, i get so frustrated that that is all he does every time he has a day off!!! LOL, i better stop my list might get too long.
I guess my answer is yes, there are so many things i would choose differently and avoid the next time around (if there is one).

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That is great to hear!! Congratulations!!

I am remarried now also, and I definitely learned from my past experiences. My dh is the complete opposite as my first dh. He is caring, respectful, appreciative and loving. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. And we do not take each other for granted.

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

Oh, yes I learned from my first marriage and divorce. This DH knows how to say "I am Sorry, I love you and Please forgive me." The first one did not. I'm not sure I learned all I should have, but I did get a little wiser.

My failed marriage and awful dating experiences taught me how to identify what I wanted and didn't want in a man and relationship. No relationship is perfect but what I have now is damn close.