those of you who are divorced. Did your husband leave you for another woman?? If so, what is your opinion of the "other" woman??

Do you think they will stay together, get married, etc...??

What are you thoughts??


For the record, my first husband did have an affair, so I have my own opinion of the "other" woman that I will share later.

Also, a have a very good friend of mine who found herself the "other" woman. The guy she started dating was seperated and the marriage was over....but not legally. I will voice my opinion at that later too.

Let's here your opinions first.....

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

I don't know for sure but I think he may have been seeing his current wife before we were seperated/divorced.

I had told him 2 yrs before we seperated to go find someone else to have sex with him. I wanted a divorce but he refused so I moved out of the bedroom and pretty much disassociated myself with him.

When he finally agreed to the divorce he moved out then proceeded to harass me to try again. I am not a cold person, I had tried with all my heart for 14 yrs to get him to participate as a father and a husband in our relationship.

After 3 weeks the calls stopped. At the end of the 4th week he told the kids he was moving in with his GF. Within a year after we seperated he was remarried.

How did I feel about it? Relieved that he found someone else and was letting me move on with my life.

I liked her lol I was "trapped" in my marriage and wanted out so bad. When I found out about her I thanked her and kicked him out of the house as quick as I could. I felt bad for her though, He was 25, her 16. The stayed together for 4 years though until she finally realized what a loser he was and tossed him a few months back.

Ok, here are my thoughts:

First, the "other" woman in my first marriage. At first, I hated her, thought she was the lowest of life forms, how could she break up my marriage, blah blah blah. I wanted a piece of her. After looking at the big picture....it was the best thing that ever happened. Unfortunately, I probably should have never married him in the first place. It was a severe case of "I shouldn't have seen the signs a long time ago". And now I am really so much better for it, because I have the love of a truly amazing and wonderful man.

It was very sad for the kids, but we have all gotten through it with minimal scars...and they are both doing great. Good grades and all!!

Second, as for my friend who found herself the "other" woman. I was really more disappointed in HIM. I really felt that he should have finished his business with his first wife before diving head first into a new relationship. They are still together after five years....still not married....but they live together, and are doing good.

I really thought we would get some "other" woman bashing going here. Guess I was wrong.

I guess we all realize it "takes two to tango".

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

Well, where to start. The ex told me the last year he lived with me for me to find somebody "to take care of me", he was just committed to paying the bills. I didn't find anybody. He left me on 10/28. I found out on 12/31`he had a girl friend. He and she both admitted they met on 11/15 at a grocery store. My ex would barely talk to people he knew much less someone at a grocery store. Plus she lived 90 miles from us. But she worked for Food Lion and said she was sent to our area to work and met my ex. Right?
Cows fly too don't they? Besides the ex never and I mean never went to the grocery store when he was with me. I just know he started shopping and socializing.
The names I had for her were (they may be edited) bitch, slut and whore. That is all I ever called her after I found out about her. The ex said to me she has a name and I said not to me. I must add here I met him at 15 married him at 18 and this was 3 months before our 25th wedding anniversary.
I have no proof that he had been seeing her before he left but I have lots of suspicions.
His Mom even told me she thought he had her before he left me.
She looked and still looks just like the names I called her. She had bleached blonde hair.
I mean stripped. Maybe like Anna Nicole Smith's hair. She always has dark roots, always acrylic nails and drives a convertible. She drinks. I have never had a drop of any alcholic beverage. The ex did not as far as I know when he was with me. But I know he drinks now too. He got a party girl this time. Yes, she is a few years younger than me and is not very overweight like I am. But I know he does part of the cleaning and cooking now. He did none of that when he was with me.
Oh, I hated her for a long time. I finally decided they make a perfect couple. My kids were 15 and 23 at the time. My DS says they get along so good because they are both self centered and think only of themselves.
Do I think they willl stay together? Well, I have always secretly hoped she would cheat on him. They have been married 10 years on Valentine's Day. I told him when he left me he would never find another woman that loved him as much as I did. He said you are probably right. And I added if you aren't happy you will never tell it and will take it to your grave. He said you are right.
I don't hate either one of them now. But it took years, and years to get over it.
The ex does see my DS once in a while. He has no relationship with my DD. She use to call him the sperm donor. Now she calls him Terry if she refers to him. I struggle with angry toward him sometimes about the way he treats my children. I can't fix it. I tried for years.
Sorry it is so long. I still talk to his Mom and some of his family. His Mom has told me I will always be her DIL no matter what. His Mom also told the ex that she thought he scraped her from the bottom of the barrel. His new wife is good at keeping him away from all his family including his aging Mom and Dad.

My ex husband got another woman pregnant just 3 months after we were married, but couldn't prove it at first.. Eventually I got tired of it and left. We were married 11 1/2 months. He is no longer with that woman in particular, but is now with one of the ladies I thought he was seeing behind my back. His (then) 4 yr old is the one that told me that "Daddy has a girlfriend." A month later I filed divorce papers.

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