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Old 04-28-2007, 02:36 AM   #1
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I'm a SAHM and Homeschooler mom. I have a 14 mo. toddler and a 9 yo DD. I have a brother(13) and a sister (10), whom I take care of them, I also take care of my BF kids 10, and 6. I feel overwhelmed and frustated all the time. My mom & friend help me money wise but I feel I can't do it anymore. How can I tell them ? I can't and don't have the energy. The older kids are getting to the teen years, which they are or THINK they are ALWAYS RIGHT. I feel drained. But how can I tell them. I just can't do it anymore.
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Old 04-28-2007, 07:01 AM   #2
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Be honest and give them at least 2 weeks notice. I hope they would understand and respect your need to end the arrangement. If not, do your best to explain and stick to your guns... you need to do what's best for you.
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You are homeschooling all those kids? I would also let them know that you just can't do it anymore and that you need to focus on your own children since you have made this commitment to them for their education.
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Old 04-28-2007, 10:47 AM   #4
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Do you homeschool your siblings also or just do before and after school?

I would be honest. They should understand your family comes first and you sound like you are busy enough homeschooling. Daycare can be hard to find so I would try and give them a month to find other options.

Good luck!
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Old 04-28-2007, 11:47 AM   #5
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Wow! I know why you feel overwhelmed. That is a lot of children to be responsible for.
Somehow you have got to tell them you can't do it anymore. You have my prayers.
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Wow, I have to think they would sense it's only a matter of time until you get overwhelmed with that load!

Can you give them until school ends, maybe that would soften the blow a bit since summer schedules usually change so much anyway.

Good luck & you shouldn't feel bad, I think you've given a great gift that should be appreciated.
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If it's difficult, write down exactly what you want to say - that will help you formulate it. That's an awful lot to take on for anybody!
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Old 04-29-2007, 06:23 PM   #8
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I think you should just be honest and let them know you are overwhelmed and they have a month to find another provider. You need a break, stick to your guns, don't give in!
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Old 05-04-2007, 04:18 PM   #9
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YOu are bound to feel resentful when everyone is taking advantage of you - its funny you know when you homeschool people think you are at home and available all day every day.

Sadly the only way out is to just tell everyone its too much - your siblings should be with their mom and BF kids - well even if you got two children less to look after then you can tackle the next two.

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