How is your relationship with your ex-spouse now? Good? Bad? or Ugly? How about those of you who are married to someone with an ex-spouse and step children how is your relationship with her?

My Dh is divorced and has been for most of his childrens lives. (She left him) Anyway, We have a pretty decent relationship with the kids' mother. We can have a good conversation and usually agree on most things. Now I wouldn't want to hangout with her by any means but we can be "friendly".
What about you?

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~Jill~

We seldom spoke when he was paying child support - maybe once or twice a year about issues regarding our kids. Now that he is done with child support (youngest is 18 in a week) I don't see any reason at all to speak unless there is an emergency - and then only if I see him.

I know it sounds cold but he pretty much deserted the kids and I when they were young. He wasn't interested in participating as a family member back then - his attempts at this point are not welcomed by me or the kids (their choice.)

His new wife used to try and deal with issues with me (exDH uses his women as personal secretaries to handle mundane tasks like phone calls.) I refused to speak to her, I told her if he needed to speak to me about HIS bills (She called the child support payments and medical bills "ours" meaning hers and his) HE can call me back. Total bitch I know but she is not the father to my kids nor is she responsible for their child support checks.

I raised those kids alone, now that they are all grown up I do not need to speak or see him.

I don't deal with my ex at all but there were no kids involved so I have no reason to...DH ex....well, he speaks to her mother when he can .She lives with her parents and when he needs to make travel arrangements (DSS lives in another state) he would rather talk to her Mother so there is VERY little communication between DH and his Ex.

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I would say I get along with my ex, but we don't like each other. He wants everything 50/50 but isn't mature enough to parent/discipline the kids nor does he want to pay anything at all to help out with them.

He has a live-in gf who is very insecure and so she causes alot of trouble between us (my&the ex). If it wasn't for her, I think we would get along better although, I stress, we don't like each other.

With my boyfriend, he seems to get along pretty good with his ex and I have met her a couple times and she was nice to me. I think it would be ok to deal with her on things regarding their ds... although I am one to not overstep boundaries like that. I don't like it with my ex's gf, I know first hand the frustration of it..