Out of my six children I have one that is challenging me. Not really in a bad way and I don't think he can help it.

He started kindergarden this year and had two years of pre-school before that. He is fine in school, but getting him to and into school is the challenge. He cries and doesn't want to go. It is horrible. This year I had to push him out the door to the school bus and he would cry to the bus. He did the same thing for pre-school. I don't think it was that he was afriad because he had the same pre-school teachers and kids in his class for the two years. I would leave him crying almost every day. Once he is in he is fine, it's just getting him in.

I don't think it is a power play. It is almost like he has severe stage fright. I don't know how else to explain it. It's like he's afraid to go in, but once he is in he is fine. Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions? I have tried all I can think of.

I had the same issue with my 6 yo, and talked to his teachers about it. It turned out that one child (who had special challenges and could not help it), hit him. After speaking with the school, they agreed to help separate my guy from the other child. I credit the school, they were the ones who figured out what the problem was, as I had no idea and had reached my wit's end. We found that with a little TLC and special attention, my guy was OK.

I suggest you talk to the school staff and see if they are observing anything out of the ordinary - is he afraid of someone, or hating a subject or teacher? Is something going on in the cafeteria or in line? Sometimes the littlest things can turn them against school. I feel for you - it was a very difficult time for me, good luck!

My thought is also that there could be conflict with another child in the classroom. Maybe you could go observe and see for yourself.

Did you talk to his teacher to see how he was acting at school? Does he say WHY specifically he doesn't want to go...?

He says school is stupid and he doesn't need to go. His teacher had a talk with him and we thought that that was going to help but it didn't. He is fine in school- no problem there. It is just getting him out the door that is the problem. We are having the same problem in summer school. Once he is there he is fine, it is just getting him there that is the problem. One of the teachers suggested that I talk to his PED about anxiety. I guess we will see what she has to say about that.

I have a very clingy little boy, too...who just finished kindergarten! He also had a great year in school..but if you were to ask him right now was he ready for first grade, he'll tell you he doesn't want to go back!!! I think little boys just sometimes mature slower....and with age, he'll outgrow this. I figure we can just about place bets on the fact that Riley will be hysterical for at least the first few weeks of school!! All I can do is send him with extra love...and be waiting for him to come in the door in the afternoons....and make sure he doesn't see MY tears when he leaves like this. It is SO hard to be a mommy sometimes.

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I had a problem like this with my dd who will be in the first grade this fall. When she started preschool she cried everymorning for the first week that she was there, but that is normal I think for some kids. I would talk to her teacher & she said that it didn't last very long after I was gone. Then after her first week or 2 of preschool she was fine & no more problems.

On her first day of kindergarten she was fine because I got to walk her into her classroom. The next day was the regular routine where you just drop them off right in front of the doors where the teacher is & they go outside to the playground. Well she cried everymorning for about a week and a half. I think that she did that because she was not familiar with that routine. When we took her to preschool you had to walk them into the building & sign them in & her classmates & teacher would already be in the classroom. Once she started kindergarten she had to walk in by herself & go out to the playground and find her friends. She got used to it & we didn't have any problems. I agree that if you are really concerned about it I would talk to your pediatrician.

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