Update on my teen who may have ADD

stxmom · **Update on my teen who may have ADD**

He does have ADD and according to the screener test he took yesterday its pretty bad.

Now I feel awful for all the times we punished him for something he couldn't control.

treehugger · 06-20-2007, 03:42 PM

We just had our son tested about a month ago and he definately has ADHD too. I thought that same thought too, but the only thing I can do is change what we do from this point forward. Big hugs, don't beat yourself up.

desertmom · 06-20-2007, 04:13 PM

Don't beat yourself up. When you know better, you do better. But do have a talk w/him and it's OK to apologize, but make it clear that the ADD won't be an excuse for misbehavior. But if his mind is feeling jumbled, that it's ok to tell you. My son was going through a phase where he confessed he felt like hurting his baby sister. He told me before he did anything. There was no way I was going to punish him for telling me, of course, but I asked if he would please come to me when he felt like that (he started to hug her a little too hard, move her around, etc.). I spoke w/a Dr. he was seeing and she said it was part of his anxiety. I watched the patterns and we labeled it "feeling anxious". Then he got to where he would just tell me he was feeling anxious, and we would go through a little list. Did he have to use the bathroom, get a drink or snack, run around or just need a cuddle. It worked so well, just to have him have a label, right or wrong, to tell me. He no longer uses it, but it helped him identify how he felt and to lt me know.

I'm just telling you this because if you can help him put his feelings and jumblings in a word, and help him understand what ADD is, it will help instill the trust.

Good luck to you. I hope you find the tools you need (a rubber pad to sit on helps my son a lot during homework.).

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