Ds, 5.5 has never woken up with a dry Pull up. He is potty trained otherwise, still has accidents once in awhile. I noticed when I started 'pushing' night training he started slipping in the daytime as well and at 5.5 there is no way I want to go back to That!!

The problem is ds is a pretty good sleeper (a good problem!) and goes to bed around 8 and hasn't been waking up until 9:00 - 9:30! While that is wonderful for me and for him (he definitely needs his sleep we have Such a better day when he is well rested) I feel like I am failing him in some way.

BUT when we night train he either says it's too dark and he can't see to go to the bathroom, so we put a soft nightlight in there. He tells us to turn it off he can't fall asleep because it's bright (it's not that bright at all).

Another problem - dh doesn't get home until 6:30 and by the time we're done eating and he's drinking his milk it's 7:00. Well he goes to bed at 8:00! I don't give him a lot of extra water (only a sip at bedtime) but I can't withhold him having a drink at dinner especially if we have something salty.

For two years now the ped. has been asking me if he is night trained. I always answer no and then he turns to ds and says you really need to start going at night, etc. and I start explaining the circumstances and he just brushes me off and says I'll have problems later if he's not trained by 6. He's 5.5!!

Dh is also subtly 'pushing' me to train him, but HE doesn't have to put up with the wet sheets, the accidents in the day when ds wets the bed (like I said when he wets the bed, every night, he reverts to having accidents in the day), and the soothing ds's feelings when he's had a 'bad' night, any of it. I tell him when he's ready he'll wake up dry, but he's only woken up dry once and woken up to go in the potty once.

I don't want to give him a complex but I don't want to feel I'm failing him either! Should I ride it out? Since he was SO hard to train (at least a year) during the daytime I feel I should feel grateful he's at least going then!!

I'm sorry you are having trouble with this!My dd who is 5 also has some accidents at night. I think a lot of kids do. This is what we do here. I cut off drinks at 8(bedtime is between 8:30 and 9).I have to make her go to the bathroom at least 3 times before bed. She doesn't like it but otherwise, she has an accident.This has helped a great deal. And if I am too tired to make her do it, then she has an accident. We are now down to making her go just before she gets in bed. HTH. And good luck.

I wish I had some advice for you but we are in the same boat. DD will be 6 in September and she is still in pull-ups. We make her go the the bathroom before bed and that works some of the time. I don't know what else to try either. Some kids just take longer than others I guess.

Hi....I am in the same boat... we tried night training sleapt in padded underwear...tried to wake up up right around nine and sometimes I beat that first pee and sometimes not...anyway...we washed sheets a lot...everynight! Then I read alot of great inforation on Dr. Sears and dr. Greenes websites...two ped whom I trust their info ...anyway...I realized...he was normal. We have decided to wait until age 6...if he doesn't wake up dry...we are going to try a potty alarm...my son tooo has not had 1 dry night...he often pees 2-3 times a night regardless of fluids. I am dreading the ped making my son feel as if it is his fault, we have our 5 year visit soon...we are a bit late. anyway here are the links...hope this helps!


Enuresis - DrGreene.com

If you gently woke him up around 11 or before you go to bed and lead him to the potty? Or will he not go back to sleep? Thats what we started doing for my 3 yr old for the first few nights. It worked for us.

This is what I did with both my kids!!

IT IS NORMAL for some kids to have accidents at night!! Even till the 1st grade!! They do make those undewear Goodnights now!! I think that is a great thing!! I dont think anyone should make a child feel bad about bedtime wetting!! That is not something some people can do anything about!!

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I tried EVERYTHING with DS#1. Nothing worked. No matter how many times I woke him at night, he still wet the bed. He also was an excellent sleeper. I really thought something was wrong with him anatomically. Nothing. Our ped told me (over and over again) to let it go until he was eight. Because I loved our ped, I listened. About two weeks before his eighth birthday, DS started waking up dry every morning! The ped just said that statistics show that kids (especially boys) that are hard sleepers sometimes take much, much longer to develop the "skill" to wake themselves to go to the bathroom or hold it until morning. He said waking them at night usually doesn't train a hard sleeper, because many times they have no recollection of the event. And, interrupting sleep and putting so much emphasis on the accidents can cause way more harm than good.

Anyways, that was our experience. I was glad I waited and didn't push the issue.

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Our DD is 5.5 and also has a wet Pull-up every morning. It's frustrating because her brother is 3.5 and has been dry at night for a while. I have tried everything. I even cut off liquids after 4:00 p.m. one night. I've woken her up to go before I go to bed and she's still wet in the morning.

Our pediatrician feels very strongly that we shouldn't worry about it. He says that some kids are just very sound sleepers (she definitely is) said that there are may kids will grow out of it by age 8. For what it's worth, he also said that it might be inherited.

I'd say you are making too big of deal about it if your ds has daytime accidents and get really upset about it when you push it. You should just leave it be and wait it out. OTOH, I have success with waking my ds before I got to bed, around 11pm, so he can go. he barely wakes up and then goes right back to sleep. if you can get your ds to do that, maybe it'll help.

Also, if you dh keeps pushing it too, make him deal with the sheets and clothes, especially in the middle of the night!

Why is 6 the magic age? I would probably stop the pull ups and just wash sheets alot, but not make a big deal of it.

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