I've been divorced from my ex-dh for 9 years. Since then we have both moved on and married other people, I had 2 more children and so did he.

I have never had the child support increased, we do not need his money but my children deserve to have both parents supporting them. When I receive a child support payment I put it in the kids savings accounts.

Over the last 2 years the child support payments have started coming late and now he hasn't paid anything since April. I talked to him about it over the summer and he said he would have it all caught up and begin paying on time by the middle of August. That hasn't happened. I sent him a e-mail this morning to let him know if they child support wasn't caught up and paid on time by the next due date (Sept. 6) I would file papers with the state of Oklahoma to have it directly taken out of his paycheck. He hasn't responded yet but I really feel that he has left me with no other choice. My children deserve to have their father support them. Am I wrong to get the state involved?

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DS-16
DD-13
DD-5
DS-3

I had to do this with my ex also, he now pays it through the child support enforsement agency, it caused him to refuse to walk oldest dd down the aisle at her wedding, but she said that was his choice not my fault. DH hasn't recieved cs for dsd in over a year, we filed papers with them and haven't heard anything. They won't tell me anything and he refuses to call--ticks me off , she only has to pay $126. a month. We put my dd's in her savings and she has bought her car with it. I think you should do it. It is their responsibility to take care of them too.

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No you're not. You've been very patient giving him an opportunity to get caught up. Did he offer some explanation like a job loss or financial emergency, or he's just being a bum and not wanting to pay? If you're going to have to get the state involved you might as well see if you can get them increased also. Good luck!

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His excuse is always the same "I've had bills to pay".

I really didn't think too much about the child support until the kids were with him for a few days and came home asking me questions about why Dad has a Nintendo Wii and we don't and why does Dad have a pool and we don't.

I tried to tell my ex that the state will review the case and possibly raise the child support (my kids only get $375 a month now).

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DD-13
DD-5
DS-3

He should have thought about his bills before having kids. Kids come first. If you continue to let him slide, he will continue to take advantage of you. What if you didnt have your husband supporting you and you counted on the support to pay your rent or mortgage to put a roof over his kids head? Would he still say "I have bills to pay"?

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No you are not wrong, you are within your right to proceed with legal action.

You have been way to patient! File those papers just as you told him you would!

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~Happiness is a large family~

NO you are not wrong. File away!! And good luck,

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

We all have bills to pay...It's a part of life...and so is supporting your kids. If you need his help financially they by all means, file for support. You are right though, they will review both your incomes and probably make adjustments based on salaries and number of other children by both parties.

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By all means, File the papers! He has had enough time!!!

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Theresa
Mom of 3 boys and 1 girl