Have you ever felt embarrassed to say you are divorced?

Even though divorce happens more and more these days, I still feel embarrassed sometimes when someone says something or asks..

I was on a field trip one time and talking with another mom, she asked me where my husband worked, I just blurted it out we're divorced! before I could really even think of what to say. I felt about an inch high after that and I think the other mom was embarrassed for me!

In the beginning at times I was but i eventually got over it - I think becoming more confident and realizing I could do this on my own was the key. The shame turned into a pride of sorts - I didn't need no stinkin man to fix anything!! I didn't have to put up with a lot of crap my married friends did - they began expressing their envy that I was on my own.

Yes I have felt ashamed I will say. the other day i was at my kids school to pick them up and they all have a different last name b/c I have since remarried and when I was standing in the office trying to locate them all my dd teacher walks in and tells the secretary "well all the kids have a diifferent last name than her" so maybe that is why you can't find them on the list. I kind of felt like my character had just been attacked but she really meant nothing by it at all. It was just me being overly sensitive about the fact that their last name is in fact different from mine. Sometimes I really hate it. At least all 4 of them do have the same father. Sometimes people do judge you when they find out you are divorced but who cares....life throws lemons sometimes so just make lemonade.

I do sometimes Because I am only 26. People look at me like I am stupid when I say that I am divorced. But I guess if you were married to me you would want to be divorced too.

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Mom of one kangaroo!

You hush, there will be no self deprecating talk!! Please don't feel you are not worthy of being loved, I don't know how you came to feel this way, and I don't know you but I do know that we are all worthy of love...

Why not? I have alot of issues. My ex was very verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. He would tell me how fat and ugly and stupid i was. I have been hearing that my whole life and I still hear it.

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Mom of one kangaroo!

I think your ex is the one with issues if that is how he treated you. You should know that you are a young, vibrant, caring mother and woman. Don't let ANY man or for that matter, person, tell you any different.

I suffered abuse in this way from my ex for several years. He had a field day at first because I would get down in the dumps and be miserable. Once I wised up, I realized how wrong he was and he was only putting all that turmoil on me because HE, himself, was so miserable.

I know it is hard, but don't believe that crap. It's not true!

Don't think that, I have heard it all my life from my parents and husbands. I always believed what they say, now I am attendeing a dental class and the teacher is nothing but positive, never have I felt more like I could actually be someone and do something, so I am telling you YOU ARE WORTH SOMETHING, BIG IS BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE NOT STUPID!!!! sAY IT OVER AND OVER!
Back on the subject--yes I ahve been embarressed. This is marriage #4. I divorced my kids Dad, my #2 died, #3 should have been annulled-divorce was cheaper after a non consimated 3 months--long story, and now I am married to DH.

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