Does anyone have a major Family Feud going on, like family members that haven't spoken in years, or someone has been "disowned??" I mean a really big blow-up!!!


I don't in my family, and actually some of the distant cousins on my Dads side are so sugary-sickening-sweet it'll gag ya!! lol!!

But, now on my dh's side, I recently found out that there is a big feud going on that happened years ago, I think it has fizzled out some, but they still don't talk to each other, and they all live close by us, I mean, I could be chit chatting in the Walmart with someone & they could be a relative of my Dh's & I'd never know it!!! My mil & dh won't tell me many details of the story so I can't share it with you all, sorry!!

So, what's your story???

My brother and father haven't spoken since my parents divorced about 5 years ago. My parents had been married 51 years and it was nasty. I speak to my dad still - though sometimes it is a struggle! And none of us speak to our cousins as they involved themselves way too much in the divorce as well.

My MIL hasn't spoken to her two middle kids in like 13 years. And the youngest sister doesn't speak to the two middle kids as well. We're not so lucky -- they all stay in contact with my husband. Reason? Near as I can figure they're all nuts.

My cousin is refusing to talk to his own brother and sister. Its kinda a long story, but both thier parents (my mother's brother) are deadbeats. Mom lives off the state, while my uncle is in jail for on a drinking and driving charge. Anyway, my grandparents raised all 3 of my cousins. When they died 4 years ago, my oldest cousin decided to step up and take full charge of his brother and sister. He got married and had a baby. Things were well till my youngest cousin wanted to see her mother for an overnight visit and her brother told her no. When he left to go to the store, she left. She left a note to the effect of 'going to moms, maybe I'll live with her' or something like that. When the DCF lady found out about it, they did this HUGE investigation and the word 'neglect' even came into it. LUckilly, he still had the note she left, and showed that to the DCF worker, that she left of her own accord, he did not kick her out. To this day, she keeps telling people that 'he kicked her out'. He finnally went to thier mother's house a few weeks ago and told her to 'shut her mouth, he did NOT kick her out, she LEFT' .

His brother is a thief. My mom let him stay with her 2 years ago at Christmas time but my brother started to notice stuff missing from his room. Then when my mom discovered p0rn on her computer, she kicked him out. They then discovered everything he had stolen from my brother, to the amount of over $1000.

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My family doesn't talk to my Mom's brother, been a long time now. He's a meth addict who screwed over his family woth another woman and about 5 years ago, he drained my grandfather of thousands of dollars. He would call Grandpa up and claim he needed money for overdue bills and my Grandpa would wire him money. Grandpa would also wire him bail money whenever he was arrested. Then he lived with him and stole from him. Shortly after, my Grandpa died. I am in contact with one of his daughters and his ex wife, but my Mom and Uncle will probably never get over it. Supposedly he is clean now, but who knows.....

We're estranged from my Dad's family exceot for my Uncle. There's been a lot of bad feelings and fights spurred on by terrible alcoholism. My parents didn't want us to be exposed to it, so we rarely saw them growing up and haven't seen anyone besides my Uncle and his wife since my Grandma died in 1991.

We all have our skeletons, unfortunately.

Unfortunately, my brother and father rarely talk. I blame them both and who does it hurt the most? My mother. And me to an extent, but my mother is really hurt by it all.

Basically, my brother remembers things from our childhood MUCH different than I do. So, he holds a lot of resentment over stuff that seems silly. My Dad did not help matters when he told my brother not to get involved with his girlfriend at the time. I agreed with Dad, she is/was trouble, but not his method of delivery. Of course, my brother, the confirmed bachelor, then marries this woman so now there is bitter feelings about that. My father has apologized, but it is not enough for my brother, apparently.

I just pray that they get over it before somebody dies. It makes me very, very sad to think about. We were such a close family, the four of us.

My mom's stepbrothers disowned her...around 1989. However many years. It was over the property my grandparents bought - my grandpa passed away, and my grandma (their step mom) got it all. They wanted it so they could sell it and make money (400 acres w/ lake). Then, mom started buying the land of grandma, in order to keep it whole and undeveloped. We had brief contact with one for a little bit a few years ago, but he started up on the land thing again, so that was cut off.

I have no idea how many cousins or what not I have. I was so little when it all went down, I just remember a lot of angry conversations about it. We almost had the same thing happen with the land - my BIL wanted to split it up "after" my parents died - um, WTF - isn't that my parent's choice? He also wanted to develop it and build more cabins because apparently he can't stand sharing a cabin if other members of the family are there (it's a huge cabin - 6 beds and a bunch of couches). My mom has it in trust to my brother and I, with the intention of if one of us cannot afford it (taxes), the other will try to buy them out to keep it whole. I'm working on something called a Conservation Easement, to ensure it never is developed. It's too beautiful to pave over.

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I married into dysfunction. Dh has 6 half siblings, and only a few get along. About 10 years ago my bil's wife said something nasty under her breath about my husband's past. Dh and his brother got into a screaming match, and have probably only talked half dozen times since then. Side note: his wife went off her antipsychotics and they ended up getting a divorce. Lovely clan. I'm happy my girls don't know half these people.

Three years ago his other brother was reroofing and basically told dh he was helping. Well the week before dh devleoped rhabdo (muscle damage causes a buildup of ck, can lead to renal failure). He even spent a night in ICU, was on a step down floor 2 more days and came home on IV fluids to flush out his system. He was home for 1 1/2 days when his dumbarse brother came over to make sure he was going to help (dh is sitting in the living room hooked up to iv fluids). I tell him no, he was recently hospitalized, spent time in ICU, and is not about to go climbing on his roof. His half brother bad talks him to the whole entire neighborhood. A guy up the street said "Whose going to hold the iv pole on the roof you idiot?" We didn't talk to him for probably 6 months (and the idiot lives across the street). It's a very strained relationship to say the least.

OMG, my family is so full of family feuds it's ridiculous. Let's see, where to begin:

- The biggest and most uncomfortable one was the rift between my mother and her father (my grandfather). To make a long story short, my grandfather was a self-centered jerk that only cared about work and didn't treat my mother very nicely when she was growing up. When she became an adult, she basically ran away from home (moved and left no forwarding address). At my grandmother's request, my grandfather hired a P.I. to track my mother down. My mom (at my father's insistence because my grandfather had $$$) finally started communicating with my grandfather again, but it was very strained. He always thought he was Mr. Wonderful and I never liked being around him. He died one year ago and it felt like a black cloud was lifted from my family.

- The second big feud was between my father and his 6 siblings. I don't know the whole story (I know some of it, have turned amateur P.I. to find out some of it) but basically my father left his family and didn't speak to them for 40 years. He does keep in contact with one of his brothers, but that's it. I know I have a ton of relatives on his side, but I've never met them. I often wonder how many people I'm related to.

- The final feud is between my dh and his siblings. When my crazy MIL started sliding downhill, they basically walked away (claiming distance as an excuse) and dumped her care on us, then sat back and criticized us and let other families criticize us for not doing enough for her. They've never gotten this out in the open (since they all rarely speak), but the tension is there.

- There's also some other rifts going on between my dh and certain aunts and uncles that my dh doesn't really talk to, but I'm not going to concern myself with dh's extended family.

Gee, aren't families fun?

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