I believe in using it only when nessecery. I was spanked once and I remember it and never did it again. I do not believe in the abusive kind.

My friend one day was upset with her DS mouth and took a old wooden spoon off the counter and smacked it on the edge while yelling at him that trucker language was not allowed in the house . From the age it broke in two pieces and his eyes were as big as saucers. To this day, all she has to do is rattle the spoons and that 13 year old boy straightens up.

Time outs work for us.

I would turn into a tiger and maul anyone who caused my child any physical pain. I'm sure any mom would.

So why would I want to cause that to him by my own hand.

He relies on me for guidance, guidelines, and love.
Not for fear or pain.

I adore my child, even in his worst moments. There are SO many options other than putting my hand on his body for the purpose of causing him pain or discomfort.

Melissa R

I do agree that spanking is ordained by God to be a tool that parents can use in disciplining children. I do also agree that there are other 'tools' as well, since each child is different. I have 4 children, all of whom are beyond spanking age now. My husband and I did spank our children. However, I must say that they each received a different amount of spanking because they responded differently to the discipline tools that we used. Our younger two received virtually no spanking because they would become instantly repentant if we just gave them 'the look' . Our 2nd child on the other hand was a strong willed child at the age of 8 and received mucho discipline including spanking. Today she is a lovely 18 year old who is very 'others' conscious. So, spanking, if considered as simply one tool of many a parent chooses to use to discipline and train a child, it will be effective.

ITA. I have no problems with spanking I very rarely spank and never do it out of anger

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Shatema
mom to Destiny and Daija divas in training

I have spanked on occasion. Not to hurt my child but to get their attention. Time out works great for us!!

Shepherds used their rods to guide the sheep, and defend and protect them from wild animals - not to beat them.

I use the rod of discipline (time-outs and suspended privileges), but not spanking.

My children are too old for spanking now, but when they were younger I did occasionally give them a swat on the butt. Never often and never with anything but my open hand, and never more than one swat, but they did occasionally get a swat. They don't seem any the worse for it.

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i never thought i'd say this but i slap the hand of my 2 yr old - she is moderately deaf and when we are outside and she is out of close range, she cant hear me. i am going through the "take off " stage with her where she just takes off on me and yelling for her does nothing - she went into the road 2x yesterday and yeah, i slapped her hand because to me, thats a serious offense and im trying to get through to her. i need to find some other way of making her fearful of what im trying to tell her (dont go into the road, dont touch the stove, dont run in a parking lot, etc)

I don't spank but dh will. Dh hasn't in several years. I never liked it when I was a kid that's why I don't.

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I spank along with other forms of discipline. Never when angry and only when other methods over time have not been effective. It is also based on what works for the child. My 5yr old ds is so easy going and responds well to a mad look and sometimes time out. My 2 yr old ds is so very strong willed and does not respond to anything other than a swat on his hiney.
I would def spank for safety issues and for outright knowing rebellion. I would never spank for normal childhood phases, or accidents.